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coastline
> Teenager of the Year <
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 Posted - 06/23/2007 : 15:56:36
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Originally posted by kathryn
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Originally posted by coastline
Is it really possible for a man and a woman to be (and remain) just friends?
Not to sound inappropriate but you can be friends with someone and still sleep with them.
I got some heaven in my head
So, if you can't find someone on Saturday night, and your friend can't find someone on Saturday night, then you screw each other, and the next day it's back to gabbing about politics and the weather?
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 06/23/2007 : 18:36:59
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Originally posted by PixieSteve
she is thinking of moving? i thought you were about 13?
"Idiot" is just her sig.
Well her parents are divorced and her dad lives in Belleville I think, so she would be making the decision whether she stays or not. It's not that far away, and I think she decided she wouldn't.
I'll defenitely tell her next time I see her. 
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Superabounder
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 06/23/2007 : 18:41:58
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Originally posted by kathryn
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Originally posted by Superabounder
I'm not head over heels in love and that's not fair to her?
What's not fair to her? I don't get it.
I got some heaven in my head
Well, if I ultimately hold out for "the one" for me and I know she's not it, am I doing a disservice to her by continuing to stay in a relationship that I feel may have no future? In other words, I may be delaying her own search for a life-partner. So far I have said wtf...I'm enjoying this and so why rock the boat. If I meet the one, then maybe I will have a nasty breakup and get my tires slashed.
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Superabounder
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 06/23/2007 : 18:44:05
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I'll defenitely tell her how next time I see her.
Awesome!! Just make sure not to do it in front of the vending machine for Jimmy's sake!
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 06/23/2007 : 18:45:03
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Damn it, that was the plan.  |
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 06/23/2007 : 22:06:44
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Originally posted by coastline
[ So, if you can't find someone on Saturday night, and your friend can't find someone on Saturday night, then you screw each other, and the next day it's back to gabbing about politics and the weather?
How did this devolve into "finding" someone on Saturday night? You're telling me I'm the only person in history to have slept with a friend and not wanted a long-term sexual/romantic relationship?
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Originally posted by Superabounder
Well, if I ultimately hold out for "the one" for me and I know she's not it, am I doing a disservice to her by continuing to stay in a relationship that I feel may have no future? In other words, I may be delaying her own search for a life-partner. So far I have said wtf...I'm enjoying this and so why rock the boat. If I meet the one, then maybe I will have a nasty breakup and get my tires slashed.
Sorry but "the one" perfect predestined person doesn't exist. Plus, what's with searching "for a life-partner"? Enjoy your time together and stop imagining a dramatic breakup. There may come a point where one of you wants something else but for now have fun together and forget cliches like "the one." Think about "the now" instead. Damn, that sounds so....I dunno either wise or really stupid.
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Originally posted by mr.biscuitdoughhead
I'll defenitely tell her how next time I see her.
Totally!
I got some heaven in my head
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PixieSteve
> Teenager of the Year <
Poland
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 04:08:12
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yay, tell us how it goes. i have vowed such a thing a couple of times in the past but failed on the night..
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coastline
> Teenager of the Year <
USA
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 05:10:13
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Originally posted by kathryn
How did this devolve into "finding" someone on Saturday night? You're telling me I'm the only person in history to have slept with a friend and not wanted a long-term sexual/romantic relationship?
I wasn't telling you anything, Kathryn. Forgive me if my tone may have sounded harsh -- I was just trying to make sure I understood what you said. I have absolutely zero direct experience to address this, because I've never slept with anyone without later putting a ring on their finger. So I'm admittedly naive.
As for whether "the one" truly exists, a person's answer to that question likely depends somewhat on their relationship status. I've been happily married for 10 years, and I believe in my heart of hearts that fate put my wife and me in the same college town 13 years ago, so we could meet and fall in love and eventually have the two children we have. Experience has taught me that she is the only woman I could have successfully married, and the only one who ever would have loved me (and put up with me) like she has. For me, she is absolutely the one. There is no question. On the other hand, looking through this thread, I see people who aren't currently in a relationship -- or whom I know had a disastrous marriage in the past -- and they don't believe "the one" exists. It's all in your point of view, based on your personal experience. And while I doubt I'll convince a single person of my side of the argument, I thought it important to point out that there are believers. (Call me the awestruck of this thread.)
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 05:14:45
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You didn't sound harsh. And you make a good point -- we are on opposite sides re: believing in "the one." I don't believe in fate.
I got some heaven in my head
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PixieSteve
> Teenager of the Year <
Poland
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 05:44:08
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coastline, i shoud never have taught you that URL linking technique... you use it everywhere now!
oh and i still agree with what i wrote on the first page.
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 07:03:18
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Ok, because I turn 44 next month, I have no idea what the thread's title means. What's the <3 supposed to tell us? Thanks.
I got some heaven in my head
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s_wrenn
* Dog in the Sand *
Ireland
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 07:10:00
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tilt your head to the right, it's a heart
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 08:52:05
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Maybe jimmy's a polygamist and has three wives.
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s_wrenn
* Dog in the Sand *
Ireland
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 08:53:35
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did you tell her yet?
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 08:54:58
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Oh. Ok. Thanks.
I got some heaven in my head
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 08:56:35
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Originally posted by s_wrenn
did you tell her yet?
haven't seen her, but i probably will tonight.
"I'm no emu!" |
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Superabounder
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 09:08:19
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Originally posted by kathryn
How did this devolve into "finding" someone on Saturday night? You're telling me I'm the only person in history to have slept with a friend and not wanted a long-term sexual/romantic relationship?
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I got some heaven in my head
Of course you're not. Still, isn't this rarer for a female? I have always associated more of the tendency to focus on the long-term future of a relationship with the female, and more of the "I just want to get in her pants with no strings attached" to the male. By the way, I have a few friends that if you can kinda talk to and convince to your way of thinking? I'd owe you one!
One more thing about love. Is it hard for you to throw that word out there? I feel like I have to truly be "in love" to say it, and right now, I might "love" this person I'm with in certain ways, but I'm not in love, not infatuated with them, and I feel like it is a lie to say it. I've only told my ex-wife, my son, my close family and a few friends that I loved them, not my handful of girlfriends I have had.
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coastline
> Teenager of the Year <
USA
3111 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2007 : 09:17:07
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Love is such a rich topic. Somebody ought to do a song about it.
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
1729 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2007 : 09:20:18
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That's the worst idea ever.
"I'm no emu!" |
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
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Posted - 06/25/2007 : 04:50:25
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Originally posted by s_wrenn
tilt your head to the right, it's a heart
It looks more like an ice cream to me. And of course, I do love ice cream.
 I'd walk her everyday, into a shady place
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jimmy
= Cult of Ray =
USA
876 Posts |
Posted - 06/26/2007 : 02:55:23
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
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Posted - 06/26/2007 : 04:29:36
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Originally posted by jimmy
For the past week or so, I've looked at the active topics, and everytime I saw this one I skipped right past it ( "Love, that's a stupid topic, and what kind of retard makes a heart symbol that way? " Then I looked at who started this thread.
......and you found which retard it was? ; )
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jimmy
= Cult of Ray =
USA
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Posted - 06/26/2007 : 17:34:32
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s_wrenn
* Dog in the Sand *
Ireland
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Posted - 07/21/2007 : 11:58:52
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Ring her up and call her a dyke.
Chicks dig artificial watercourses
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 07/21/2007 : 12:39:43
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i have a feeling that's not a very good idea.
ummm... salad? |
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s_wrenn
* Dog in the Sand *
Ireland
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Posted - 07/21/2007 : 12:46:57
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Try it.
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 07/21/2007 : 13:09:25
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i don't see how it makes any sense at all.
ummm... salad? |
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s_wrenn
* Dog in the Sand *
Ireland
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 13:40:11
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Are you taking any of my advice on board yet?
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 13:52:43
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maybe if she would talk to me....
i've tried to sorta, you know, like give up or whatever, but i'm not very good at that kind of thing.
 "How do you like that, Sir Harold?"
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 13:59:05
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Tell her about it, tell her everything you feel, give her every reason to accept that you're for real
No, I don't know that atheists should be considered as citizens, nor should they be considered patriots. This is one nation under God George Bush snr |
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mr.biscuitdoughhead
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 14:05:43
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hmmmmmmm.... accuse her of homosexuality or tell her how i feel? i'm gonna have to go with llama on this one.
"How do you like that, Sir Harold?"
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coastline
> Teenager of the Year <
USA
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 14:12:30
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Awesome, I love that song.
No, I don't know that atheists should be considered as citizens, nor should they be considered patriots. This is one nation under God George Bush snr |
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The King Of Karaoke
> Teenager of the Year <
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Erebus
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 09/11/2007 : 15:56:56
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Originally posted by coastline
\Is it really possible for a man and a woman to be (and remain) just friends?
I do know that man and woman can be “just” friends, though the example I have in mind doesn’t really fit your model, and perhaps its very exceptionality makes it one of those “exceptions that prove the rule”, the rule here being that man and woman can’t be “just” friends. Nancy and I were lovers for two years, but when we broke up what made it especially tough for me was having to disconnect from her two young children, with whom I had formed a deep bond. It was tough for the kids too, so after about a month Nancy invited me over just to see the kids. From there I became a frequent visitor to their home, mostly for the sake of the relationship the kids and I shared. Out of that, over the next eight years Nancy and I became, if anything, better friends than ever, on the basis of our former love and our long-term alliance in support of and love for her kids. So certainly man and woman can be “just” friends, though in my case it took some machinations to make it real.
Unfortunately it lasted only the eight years because Nancy wanted to marry a fucked up guy who insisted that I disappear, and Nancy gave in, which spoiled everything and completely screwed with my head since I couldn’t see “my” kids anymore. And, as I had warned she would, Nancy soon realized the guy was a total asshole and their marriage lasted only two years, but by then our friendship was dust. Despite my resentment, I was willing to reestablish the connection, but Nancy would not, mostly I suspect out of guilt for having so thoroughly screwed over me and her kids. She really made a mess of everything. In life it truly is possible to make huge mistakes with life-changing consequences for multiple people. But we did have a strong friendship for quite a while.
edit: Nasty comment on KoK removed, who has once again proven himself a responsible citizen of the world. Howdy KoK! Long time.
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