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darkoutsider
= Cult of Ray =
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 Posted - 07/26/2004 : 15:58:49
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I've been coming to this forum for the longest time now and I feel I can trust you guys enough to ask a personal question, I've seen other people do so and I need the help.
Okay, now I've gotten myself in a bit of a rut. I ended up falling for another girl while I was with my current g/f. I felt it was love and I broke it off with my g/f and went for the other girl, without ever telling her exactly why I did what I did. And she was really getting depressed and I thought she diserved to know the truth. And it ended up making things worse. Now I don't know who I want. I feel I should just let them both go and let them forget about me and what an awful person I am, but I don't want them out of my life.
A little background story on them both: first girl with her for about 4 years now. Other girl, met her online and it went from close friendship to love. I wasn't unhappy in my current relationship and we hardly ever fought. But I don't know I ended up falling for someone else. Like emotions came out and I couldn't fight them. I didn't want to fight them, but after I told her what happened things went to hell. Now they're both waiting for me to answer them and I can't do it. I can't hurt them anymore. I don't want to hurt them anymore. I'm tired of being the bad guy, I want to be the good guy again but it doesn't seem like it's gonna happen. Help me please help me. I need it... I don't want to loose touch with them.
~*We lost contact and I hope that you don't mind. I was trying to save us both some time.*~ |
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pfeffa
= Cult of Ray =
Aruba
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Posted - 07/26/2004 : 17:48:36
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darkoutsider,
If you are willing to chat with other women online romantically, then you have subconsciously given up on your current real girlfriend. You may find someone you "love" online, but you're not really in love...you think you are...I don't know what love is, I just know that it's hard to have feelings in general. Don't be sad...what's meant to be is meant to be. Sorry, sweet, man. |
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TheCroutonFuton
- Mr. Setlists -
USA
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Posted - 07/26/2004 : 18:02:01
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I'm sorry, man, but you lost me. What exactly are they asking of you? It sounds like you've already told them what happened...Are they asking what you want, or who you want rather?
Again, sorry.
"Freedom is a state of mind and the condition and position of your ass. Free your mind and your ass will follow." - Funkadelic |
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Daisy Girl
~ Abstract Brain ~
Belize
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Posted - 07/26/2004 : 19:36:28
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Darkoutsider I am sorry...what a prediciment. Since I don't know the details other than to say that no matter how hard it is you will have to choose one or none because two doesn't seem like an option. No matter how hard it is I think taking a break for at least a week or a month from being friends with the women would be good. This will help give you some perspective.
Then, in person if possible I would tell your ex girlfriend that either a) the truth that you had met some one on line or b.) after 4 years you just wanted to date other people since you're still young. Then say if she agrees, you would still like to keep in touch after you take a short break to allow both of you to get some perspective. Good luck. |
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darkoutsider
= Cult of Ray =
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Posted - 07/27/2004 : 02:01:55
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Well to clear up what I was trying to ask... I just wanted to know if there were others who have gone thru the same and wondered if there was any advice that person could give me in order to survive my ordeal. That's pretty much it but it's done for the most part. I took Daisy's advice some what and took a break from my current ex to let the other ride out. I feel I started something wit someone else, I should finish it. Not fair just to run away from it. So thanks anyway and I hope this never happens again because next time I won't make it out alive, I really mean that. I was so close to just downing tons of pills, drinking as much alcohol as I could get my hands on (which is weird because I don't drink at all), going to sleep and never waking up. But luckly it didn't come to that. If this happens again... then... yeah. Thank you anyway, this is why I love this forum so much you guys are like family. Bye byes and night night to you all. If there's an administrator or something reading this you guys can just delete this topic or archive it, but why save this. Thank you again guys, especially Daisy Girl.
~*We lost contact and I hope that you don't mind. I was trying to save us both some time.*~ |
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
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Posted - 07/29/2004 : 10:30:05
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I think you should take a break from both of them, from relationsips full stop. Not sure your head is in the right place for one at the moment. That's just my two-penneth as they say over here.
Good luck.
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