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GypsyDeath
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 Posted - 04/08/2004 : 04:52:48
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So, quite a few of you on here are married, and I was having a discussion the other day, about a married woman being bought drinks at a bar.
What are your opinions on this?
should married women except drinks?
There are so many different situations that there must be some circumstances where this would be acceptable?
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Edited by - GypsyDeath on 04/10/2004 06:57:12 |
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bumblebeeboy2
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 04:56:33
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quote:
Originally posted by GypsyDeath
So, quite a few of you on here are married, and I was having a discussion the other day, about a married woman being bought drinks at a bar.
What are your opinions on this?
should married women except drinks?
There are so many different situations that there must be some circumstances where this would be exceptable?
Boys go to Jupiter, Get more stupider,
Girls go to Mars, Become rock stars
Wanna fuck and fight in the basement?
i'd be pretty pissed off if my *girlfriend* accepted drinks being bought for her in a bar (from someone she didn't know)... i've always been under the assumption that it's accepting the offer to flirt or maybe acknowledging they're interested, or available...
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 04:59:01
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True, but at the sametime,i mean, i except drinks off guys now..but not all guys, only ones that i either a) know of somewhat, or b) arent too creepy.
Most the time i just fuck off after they bought me the drink anyway. hahaha.im so cruel.
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:15:46
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| Apart from anything else, isn't it just plain dangerous to accept drinks from strangers these days - y'know in case you wake up 15 hours later to find that you've been "enjoyed" by an entire rugby team? |
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bumblebeeboy2
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:16:53
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i've never actually offered a girl a drink thinking about it... not one i didn't know already... i've been offered drinks by girls, but never offered girls drinks... maybe that's where i was going wrong?
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:20:59
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most definately andy, thats a very important point,but i always go to the bar with them, and keep an eye on everything.
Im thinking about how expensive nights out will be when im married and have to by my own drinks!!!!
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:21:35
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i've been offered drinks by girls, but never offered girls drinks quote:
Girls offer to buy you drinks?!?! You must either be a stunner or look a bit helpless - I think you should tell which. |
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:22:59
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id say its the second one...by the way bumble, drinks from your mum and your g/f dont count!
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bumblebeeboy2
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:24:12
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Originally posted by andyn
Girls offer to buy you drinks?!?! You must either be a stunner or look a bit helpless - I think you should tell which.
haha! well, i'd like to say a bit of both, but i do have mostly the helpless poor little lost boy look going for me... especially after a few drinks when i decide my mates are boring and i'm going to sit on my own for a while in the corner... lol! works every time for getting girls... they see a lad looking miserable on their own, obviously single and you don't have to contend with their mates being about... makes you easy, i reckon.
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:25:38
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but youre not single...
i think its more that you dont have any mates...
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bumblebeeboy2
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:26:02
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quote:
Originally posted by GypsyDeath
id say its the second one...by the way bumble, drinks from your mum and your g/f dont count!
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haha! from girls i don't know... and you said i looked pretty hot the other day! look i even have the msn log...
"you look pretty hot really, almost as hot as jim"
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:31:32
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works every time for getting girls... they see a lad looking miserable on their own, obviously single and you don't have to contend with their mates being about... makes you easy, i reckon. quote:
That's never been my experience, to be honest. But there again, I am quite astonishingly ugly. |
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 05:35:53
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I did not say that Simon!!! I said ' Youre ok looking, really'..thats all!!! DOnt believe him jim, he lies!!!
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Adnan_le_Terrible
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:09:44
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I don't want to behave like an expert in English, but Mel, you should buy yourself a dictionary and check the meaning of the word "except".
Perhaps it's a dialect from Birmingham, though.
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:34:09
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I live in Birmingham and we are perfectly aware of the difference between "Accept" and "Except".
Adnan, your patronising tone is quite unexceptable. |
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Adnan_le_Terrible
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:37:57
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You live in BIRMINGHAM? ha ha ha ha ha
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:39:53
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jediroller
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:48:23
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To answer the original question: my wife doesn't go to bars.
And if she did, I don't think she'd accept anything from a stranger.
But if she did, I would not be mad. I must say it would take a bit more than a free drink for me to feel threatened.
After all, I kept my cool when this guy sent her a big bunch of flowers with a calling card attached bearing his cell phone number and an invitation to dinner.
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Cheeseman1000
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 06:54:42
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Originally posted by andyn
Better than France, mate!
Not particularly convincing, andy.
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:01:14
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Originally posted by andyn
Better than France, mate!
Not particularly convincing, andy.
Well I don't work for the tourist board, I was just responding to that saucy Frenchman. And pointing out that I've visited his country a number of times and found it unacceptional. |
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Adnan_le_Terrible
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:05:26
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Except my asscuses, Brit !
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Cheeseman1000
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:06:34
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Just making the subtle point that most places are better than Birmingham. In the nicest possible way, obviously.
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Adnan_le_Terrible
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:10:51
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Well, Birmingham is a better place then Bagdad, these days...although there is also panic on the streets of Birmingham.
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:10:56
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andyn
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:18:00
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Originally posted by Adnan_le_Terrible
Well, Birmingham is a better place then Bagdad, these days...although there is also panic on the streets of Birmingham.
I don't want to behave like an expert in Geography but Adnan, you should buy yourself an atlas and check the spelling of the word "Baghdad". |
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Adnan_le_Terrible
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:22:54
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Pardon my French.
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Cult_Of_Frank
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:24:37
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Heh heh heh, touche.
I've never sent drinks over to anybody, but mostly because girls these days have no respect anyway and would take the drink and give you dirty looks at the same time. I see it often enough, being in the industry sort of...
If she took a drink from someone, I'd be more disappointed in her abusing/misleading the person than in a cheating sort of way, I think. Now if she went over and flirted with him, then we might be having a chat.
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bumblebeeboy2
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 07:52:01
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hmm, yeah, i see what you're saying dean! kind of agree! but i'm just so insecure, always have been... very suspicious of girls... 
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Cult_Of_Frank
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 08:04:47
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I hear 'ya. Years of singleness don't really do much to help that out. :)
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Carolynanna
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 08:58:50
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hmmm, no comment.
(right Dean?) hehe |
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realmeanmotorscutor
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 09:55:35
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Originally posted by jediroller
To answer the original question: my wife doesn't go to bars.
And if she did, I don't think she'd accept anything from a stranger.
But if she did, I would not be mad. I must say it would take a bit more than a free drink for me to feel threatened.
After all, I kept my cool when this guy sent her a big bunch of flowers with a calling card attached bearing his cell phone number and an invitation to dinner.
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You know Jedi, there is such a thing as being too GD confident in your relationship. I'd bust some nuts if a guy offered my wife a drink, let's not even discuss the atrocities if there were flowers and calling cards.
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apl4eris
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 10:04:05
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I don't know what the social mores are for this situation, but I would never accept a drink from a guy (other than my husband), out of mutual respect. I think it's pretty obvious what the gesture means.
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Carolynanna
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 10:07:13
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I agree apl,
Unless the person is a friend,
I feel more comfortable buying my own drinks.
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jediroller
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 10:14:16
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Originally posted by realmeanmotorscutor
I'd bust some nuts if a guy offered my wife a drink, let's not even discuss the atrocities if there were flowers and calling cards.
I hear you... But see, the thing is, instead of calling the guy, she called ME right away (the flowers were delivered at her workplace), and gave me his number. Despite every single female around her urging her to do just the opposite.
So I left him a friendly little message and that was the last we heard of him Of course now she gets a little frustrated because she never knew who he was. (It was a freaky "You don't know who I am but I know you" kinda deal.)
Plus, I knew right away he didn't stand a chance. There were spelling mistakes on his little cardie.
I've gone through a phase when I was too suspicious, and it was hell for both. So I'd rather be too confident. As French director Claude Chabrol once said, "I'd rather be cuckold than jealous. It's less painful."
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ProverbialCereal
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 10:15:18
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I wanted to say something about the "except" but I didn't want to look like a grammar bitch. I thought maybe that was a UK thing to spell it like that.
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Carolynanna
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Posted - 04/08/2004 : 11:21:50
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hehe, remember on Family Guy when Peter was so jealous.
My fave was when he ran up to the stage to knock that guy out for saying this one's for all the ladies out there. |
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