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starmekitten
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United Kingdom
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 Posted - 03/30/2005 : 20:12:37
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we were in a shop ordering kebabs
it's blunt
i love them for it though
 cats have nine lives/ which makes them ideal for experimentation |
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floop
= Wannabe Volunteer =
Mexico
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Posted - 03/30/2005 : 20:17:13
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Originally posted by starmekitten
no I'm talking about females, one of my friends told me the only thing she missed about her ex was [edited]
cats have nine lives/ which makes them ideal for experimentation
wonder what was edited there, and why.. kind of fits in perfectly with what Kathryn is talking about..
that said, one thing my exgirlfriend and i used to do, that both of us really enjoyed was [edited]
ist es möglich für ein quesadilla skrotum zu lecken? beim sprechen der quesadillas von LBF, ja. ja in der tatheheheheheheehehee! |
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Posted - 03/30/2005 : 22:29:39
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Originally posted by Surfer Rosa
What if you're the one with more of an appetite but who's left alone for far too long?
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it.
Poor Surfer!
In fact I think that a marriage only can lasts long if it has good sex, otherwise it may become boring. And I'm not talking about tha quantity, but the quality.
You're trying to
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 03/30/2005 : 23:52:23
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Ah yes - my woefully heavy cross that I bear.
A man away from home for far too much.
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. |
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Jordo
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USA
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Posted - 03/30/2005 : 23:53:59
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Well...Sometimes people are uncomfortable with sex because -- ew, gross, I dont want to know about you (whoever) having sex. The same way you wouldnt want to know about how someone takes a crap. Cause its like this private naked thing with private parts and fluids and sweat and it is very reasonable for people not to want to hear about that.
I'm not speaking about myself though
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geertos
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Belgium
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 00:56:25
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Originally posted by rita
In fact I think that a marriage only can lasts long if it has good sex, otherwise it may become boring. And I'm not talking about tha quantity, but the quality.
Yep, it's the quality that counts, not the quantity. But if the quantity is less then once a year, you should definitely do something about it.
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geertos
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Belgium
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 01:00:12
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Another one from that Woody Allen-movie:
- woman to Woody: "But sex without love is an empty experience"
- Woody: "Yes, but as far as empty experiences are concerned, it's one of the best" |
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Carl
- A 'Fifth' Catholic -
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:01:24
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:21:55
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With my closer friends Im not at all coy about expressing when I want, or have had, or talking generally about sex, nor they with me.
I think its very healthy to talk about sex, and the different aspects of it. And we do talk about EVERYTHING.
But there is a difference between discussing it in those details with close friends, and discussing it with everyone. (unless you are drunk, then you can say or do what ever you like!)
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:35:04
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Originally posted by GypsyDeath
With my closer friends Im not at all coy about expressing when I want, or have had, or talking generally about sex, nor they with me.
I think its very healthy to talk about sex, and the different aspects of it. And we do talk about EVERYTHING.
But there is a difference between discussing it in those details with close friends, and discussing it with everyone. (unless you are drunk, then you can say or do what ever you like!)
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As far as I recall Mel, you're not all that coy talking about sex with anyone!
I think I'm different to most people: I don't want to hear any of yor sordid details thanks.
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:38:32
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So why did ya just read this thread?
As i said, its fine when youre drunk!
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:39:50
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I'm bitter and jealous, leave me alone.
I'm like a lost snail in the night. |
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 02:50:09
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I know you are, I know. Its ok, you can tell us all about it.
(why dont you go to ann summers or something...they have some great female substitutes!  )
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
4209 Posts |
Posted - 03/31/2005 : 04:26:59
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Originally posted by kathryn
Not to sound like a slut, floop, but in both of my major
relationships the courtship part got skipped and we
went straight to the sex part. (My husband always jokes
that the dinners and dates came way after the sex.)
In what way do you find it ineffective?
You and me both (again) Kathryn.
Every single one of my long term relationships resulted from what I thought were one night stands. In fact the only one in which the sex didn't come first disintergrated in a most astounding manner.
 I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. |
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KimStanleyRobinson
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 06:38:22
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You've got sex and then there's the intimacy thing.
Do you other guys find that, following orgasm, you're not really so into being intimate?
I feel usually (unless the next round just starts early - which ain't a bad thing at all) that I want to get up, move around...something besides lay in bed.
Dunno.
Could be a situational thing.
Also, has anyone ever been involved in mutual masturbation?
I've thought about trying it with the woman I see occaisionally, but haven't had the opportunity to breach the subject. |
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Surfer Rosa
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 07:11:37
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I look to my friends for intimacy, lovers for sex.
And yes to the mutual masturbation. I don't know if it's a power thing, but I like to see how a man handles himself.
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. |
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mun chien andalusia
= Quote Accumulator =
Italy
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 07:31:49
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for what i know there are 2 opposite behaviours towards sex. some people keep talking about it all the time in a gross manner reducing it to a mere pornographic sequence (or a simple physical need like defecation), some others totally avoid the argument. most of us are someway in between and i think that the cultural background has a lot to do with our approach. for example many people i know have problems with their partners because they want to try stuff but are afraid of asking.
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starmekitten
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United Kingdom
6370 Posts |
Posted - 03/31/2005 : 08:22:24
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se, thats wrong that means the whole relationship is wrong, you should be able to bring anything up with your partner because they are the ones you're closest to, your lover is supposed to be your best friend and if you're too scared to ask them something they aren't a great best friend
I think.
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KimStanleyRobinson
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 09:41:24
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I think you have to be careful wanting your lover to be your best friend.
I can't really articulate it, I just think it is a bit dangerous to expect one person to be it all for us.
I mean, if you really think about it, having a great relationship with a great lover opens up your mind and soul - you want to be in the world more..which means interacting with people more and being more coinfident and alive...and craving the world more.
If your relationship makes you want to be the only two people in the world then maybe its a bit dysfunctional.
I think.
So, needless to say, if you were waiting around with five bucks in your hand waiting to buy my upcoming brochure Understanding Poop, you can put that five bucks away, 'cause it ain't happenin.
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floop
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Mexico
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 10:28:12
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one thing i've found to be true.. people who talk about sex a lot are usually the ones not having sex (myself included)
ist es möglich für ein quesadilla skrotum zu lecken? beim sprechen der quesadillas von LBF, ja. ja in der tatheheheheheheehehee! |
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 10:49:28
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Floop, you're so right again, what's happening?
Me not talks about that...
You're trying to
fool somebody, but you end up fooling yourself. |
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floop
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Mexico
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 10:51:03
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Originally posted by rita
Floop, you're so right again, what's happening?
i haven't been drinking as much beer this week. i'm getting smarter
ist es möglich für ein quesadilla skrotum zu lecken? beim sprechen der quesadillas von LBF, ja. ja in der tatheheheheheheehehee! |
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 10:52:26
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Floop, you're so right again, what's happening?
Me do not talks about that matter...
You're trying to
fool somebody, but you end up fooling yourself. |
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KimStanleyRobinson
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 11:07:32
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oops.
So, needless to say, if you were waiting around with five bucks in your hand waiting to buy my upcoming brochure Understanding Poop, you can put that five bucks away, 'cause it ain't happenin.
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starmekitten
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 11:23:12
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I don't know how to put it...
I need to ponder this for a second, for me to be intimate like that with another person is a massive deal with a massive amount of trust involved, if I didn't trust someone enough to ask them anything I wouldn't be in that situation in the first place. My ex was for a long time my best friend as well, so thats all I have ever known
cats have nine lives/ which makes them ideal for experimentation |
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kathryn
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Belgium
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 11:54:44
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I dunno. I've had a couple of relationships that were
not all-encompassing (the sex was phenomenal but the friendship was non-existent or the friendship and sex were great but there was no intellectual connection) yet they were very and satisfying relatinoship. I think a lot of myths exist around sexuality, especially female sexuality and especially about finding an "ideal" mate.
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
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starmekitten
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:15:38
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this is just how it is for me, I can't really comment on how it is for other people
i have a lot of friends who have had some fabulous non all encompassing relationships and it suits them, sometimes i really do wish i was a little more that way but i'm not
the whole issue of relationships is so broad and personal and differs from individual to individual, so personally i don't believe in soul mates and KSR's only two people in the world theory, i'd be quite happy with someone who i trusted well, could get on with well and feel comfortable with
and all that happy ever after jazz at all
is that too old fashioned you think? i know it's supposed to be the age of sexual freedom and all
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:22:36
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I don't think that's "too old-fashioned" or too much to ask for.
I think it's good old-fashioned fun to feel happy/comfortable with and trusting of someone and have great sex. I'm an old-fashioned gal myself.
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:35:28
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Originally posted by KimStanleyRobinson
I think you have to be careful wanting your lover to be your best friend.
I can't really articulate it, I just think it is a bit dangerous to expect one person to be it all for us.
I mean, if you really think about it, having a great relationship with a great lover opens up your mind and soul - you want to be in the world more..which means interacting with people more and being more coinfident and alive...and craving the world more.
If your relationship makes you want to be the only two people in the world then maybe its a bit dysfunctional.
I think.
So, needless to say, if you were waiting around with five bucks in your hand waiting to buy my upcoming brochure Understanding Poop, you can put that five bucks away, 'cause it ain't happenin.
I cannot agree with you more.
I think it's incredibly dangerous to be everything to one another. I'm not saying I don't believe in happily ever after together forever - it's just that people change over time, your needs change and apart from that one of you is going to outlive the other. I feel it's essential for your own mind to be able to find the intimacy and peace that you get from friendship with someone (or many people) other than your lover.
However this is all coming from someone who could just be fooling herself.
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Carolynanna
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Canada
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:41:36
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Originally posted by starmekitten
this is just how it is for me, I can't really comment on how it is for other people
i have a lot of friends who have had some fabulous non all encompassing relationships and it suits them, sometimes i really do wish i was a little more that way but i'm not
the whole issue of relationships is so broad and personal and differs from individual to individual, so personally i don't believe in soul mates and KSR's only two people in the world theory, i'd be quite happy with someone who i trusted well, could get on with well and feel comfortable with
and all that happy ever after jazz at all
is that too old fashioned you think? i know it's supposed to be the age of sexual freedom and all
cats have nine lives/ which makes them ideal for experimentation
Ooooooo I nominate a forum match for tre and cheesy!
I think they have similar ideas.
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:41:41
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I would much rather have sex with my husband and
get the intimacy and the "let's process our every feeeeeeeling" from my female friends. If that's what you're saying, Surfer, I don't think you're fooling yourself. I know some women who boast
of how open and "in touch with their feminine side" their
husbands are and I'm, barf, how can you fuck a man like that?
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
4209 Posts |
Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:45:50
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THANK YOU!
If I want to sleep with a woman quite frankly, I will.
This whole metrosexual nonsense kills me. It makes me sound old, but it drives me utterly insane.
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. |
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:51:07
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I'm not sure about that Carolyn. I don't think it would be healthy for one side of the relationship, say the man, to be actually afraid of the other half.
I second the non-metrosexual thing though, I think a slovenly oaf is infinitely more appealing than a spruced up spiv. Ahem.
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darwin
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
USA
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 12:52:34
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Originally posted by Surfer Rosa
I'm not saying I don't believe in happily ever after together forever - it's just that people change over time, your needs change and apart from that one of you is going to outlive the other. I feel it's essential for your own mind to be able to find the intimacy and peace that you get from friendship with someone (or many people) other than your lover.
I think you change together
As far as best friends don't we grow out of that in junior high? We have friends and they mean different things for us in different contexts. We don't have to rank them. I know I'm missing the central theme of the conversation, but I don't think a relationship is going to be fulfilling if you don't like and trust the other person. |
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 03/31/2005 : 13:12:52
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The changing together doesn't always happen that way.
I agree on the liking and trusting someone though - that's essential for even the most basic of relationships.
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. |
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A not so boring topic - Sex
