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TarTar
* Dog in the Sand *
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 Posted - 12/05/2003 : 17:41:15
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A close friend of mine's cousin died this last week from bacterial meningitis, something common with people in their early 20s. He had gone to the doctor twice in the week he died, knowing that something was wrong, but they let him go without the medication that easily treats bacterial meningitis since they couldn't diagnosis it. I knew him rather well when he lived here. His name was Ben, 23 years old. He moved down to New Mexico last year to just find a new area of the country to live in. He had just started a band, too. I had jammed with him a couple times when he lived here. He was a good guitarist, and was into the Pixies, so we would jam away on Where Is My Mind and Tame and maybe some other tunes. He was a good guy who was always nice and very into music and living. The reality of his death didn't hit me until I saw him in the coffin. I'm now a bit down, but glad to have known him. I just felt like mentioning something personal since it's on my mind right now.
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TheCroutonFuton
- Mr. Setlists -
USA
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Posted - 12/05/2003 : 18:12:00
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| I'm sorry. That's horrible. Doctors are such bureaucrats. Damn...that happens too much. I mean...here in Ohio I still "don't have Lyme disease", according to my doctors here. I'm diagnosed with lyme in Pennsylvania though and go there for treatment. I've had meningitis because of my lyme...but not bacterial meningitis, so I don't know what that's like. But the meningitis wasn't that I had was no fun, none the less. Grr..Doctors are so full of themselves...they aren't God...grr. It's malpractice. Tell your friend to get someone to educate those doctors on how to diagnose the bacterial meningitis. If they don't listen...sue the slimy bastards. I know it's not cool to get money from someone's death, but they obviously need to be educated a lot more than they already are. I'm really really sorry about that, though. It's not fair. Best of luck to your friend and his family, as well as you. I'm sure he's in a much better place now. |
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TOTIPOTENT
- Master of Differentiation -
USA
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Posted - 12/05/2003 : 18:13:53
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| My condolences, Peter. Instances like these make me sad that the world (myself) isn't as perfect as I think it should be. Like you said and I know that, he could easily be alive right now. I also know that we all make mistakes. If I was associated with this tragedy I would not be upset with the medical personnel but I would probably look into suing for malpractice or something. I send my best wishes to you and yours. |
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bumblebeeboy2
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
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Posted - 12/05/2003 : 18:16:30
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sorry to hear that, i really am.
my girlfriend's cousin died last year, in a car crash, she was only 19, was really into music, wrote a lot of articles... in fact my girlfriend now runs a student e-zine in memory of her. i only met her once, at the glastonbury festival, a couple of months before she died. but my girlfriend pretty much grew up with her and they were like sisters. it was the first funeral of a young person, or someone my own age, i'd been too. really hits home, the usual clichés, how precious life is, living to the max...
so again, sorry to hear about your loss. even worse that it could have been prevented if diagnosed properly. :(
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apl4eris
~ Abstract Brain ~
USA
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Posted - 12/05/2003 : 19:24:14
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| Hey TarTar, I'm so sorry about that. Are you doin okay? |
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mun chien andalusia
= Quote Accumulator =
Italy
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Posted - 12/05/2003 : 21:01:52
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r.i.p.
hope you get over it.funerals are kind of hard to forget.recently i saw burried my granma an unkle and a few friends so i know what you are talking about...2003 was a bad year .fuck i hate funerals...i consider myself atheist and all but it's always hard when death touches you personally...
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BLT
> Teenager of the Year <
South Sandwich Islands
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Posted - 12/06/2003 : 14:57:36
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| Western-type open-casket funerals are the worst. They invariably leave you feeling worse than when you arrived. On the other hand, I have actually felt slightly better after attending memorial services (without the body) that celebrated the life of the person. |
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 12/06/2003 : 16:00:48
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I had a friend die in a car accident when he was 18, and it was pretty terrible. I felt really deeply for his close friends. He was a cool guy, and again, well into his music. We finished some recordings he'd done after he died in memory of him, they're really poignant now.
I chickened out of going to the funeral, cos I don't deal well with that, but I feel incredibly guilty for it.
"What are we going to do tonight, Brain?"
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