| T O P I C R E V I E W |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 03/04/2007 : 10:38:25
We recently received the tragic news that on the 9th of February forum member Ed Banky/John Dietzel (Real name Jensen Reed Oler) took his own life after a long battle with depression. He left behind a note with a message to Frank Black that read "Thanks for the music" and asking that the people of the forum be told. We know that this place meant a lot to him. He wanted you all to know.
So be it exchanging jokes and ideas in posts, meeting up with forumites for beers at concerts or just backing and forthing over which songs are best, we will all miss him.
Jensen's obituary can be found here where there is a guestbook for those who wish to comment and of course feel free to share your experiences and thoughts here in this thread. |
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| s_wrenn |
Posted - 02/12/2010 : 10:25:46
3 years today, and not forgotten
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| fbc |
Posted - 06/26/2009 : 01:57:35
Both Ed and Erebus are woven into the fabric of frankblack.net. Their names pop into my head sometimes. Memories remain. |
| Stevio10 |
Posted - 06/25/2009 : 14:01:10
I feel ashamed ive only read this just now.
I would talk to jensen on yahoo and we would share some great theories and ideas about fb and also just talk about life in general. I wish I had a chance to meet him in person, he was a handsome chap and very thoughtful. Just so happens im listening to after the gold rush, so this one is for you jensen, stay gold.
My thoughts to you and your family, your scottish pal, stevio. |
| Stevio10 |
Posted - 06/25/2009 : 14:00:01
I feel ashamed ive only read this just now.
I would talk to jensen on yahoo and we would share some great theories and ideas about fb and also just talk about life in general. I wish I had a chance to meet him in person, he was a handsome chap and very thoughtful. Just so happens im listening to after the gold rush, so this one is for you jensen, stay gold.
My thoughts to you and your family, your scottish pal, stevio. |
| Mickey |
Posted - 06/15/2009 : 11:30:47
I just now read this and it has made me unbearably sad. I remember becoming a part of the Frank Black online community (which then was Frank Black for president and the Abstract Plain mailing lists) when I was about 15, over ten years ago. Being a teenager I said some stupid stuff and most people brushed me off, but Ed Banky (or Jenson, as I now know was his name) was always kind and welcoming and willing to chat with this annoying kid. He deserved better, and wherever he is I hope he's getting it.
-Mickey |
| Mickey |
Posted - 06/15/2009 : 11:30:42
I just now read this and it has made me unbearably sad. I remember becoming a part of the Frank Black online community (which then was Frank Black for president and the Abstract Plain mailing lists) when I was about 15, over ten years ago. Being a teenager I said some stupid stuff and most people brushed me off, but Ed Banky (or Jenson, as I now know was his name) was always kind and welcoming and willing to chat with this annoying kid. He deserved better, and wherever he is I hope he's getting it.
-Mickey |
| GypsyDeath |
Posted - 03/23/2007 : 08:46:14
I dont know what to say. There is so much to say, i Just cant put it in to words.
First of all thank you to Jensens mum for stopping by, and letting us know. I cant imagien what you and your family are going through.
I know i havent been posting much recently but i am so glad that the board gave him something to escape too.
RIP Jensen, I hope you have found peace
"I'm not much like my generation,
Their music only hurts my ears" ~ Kasey Chambers |
| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 03/22/2007 : 05:00:55
I really can't believe this, I only just saw this now.
This is so sad, my thoughts go out to you and your family.
This vindicates why I love this forum so much. The fact that this place was a source of happiness for Jensen, disproves the people who naively tell me I'm a geek for posting on an internet forum. I don't think people realise how close people can become on internet forums, whether they ever meet or not. I have seen many people post on here that it's 'just an internet forum', but I think this shows what great ones like this one can do for people. I'm just sorry that some other aspects of Jensen's life didn't make him as content.
RIP Jensen - Into the white.
 I'd walk her everyday, into a shady place
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| Broken Face |
Posted - 03/19/2007 : 14:17:04
I also want to add my condolences, thoughts and prayers for Jensen and his family. I haven't been on a lot lately, and so i haven't had a chance to formally add my memories, so here i go. I always will remember Jensen as a nice and funny guy. He made me laugh many times on this forum and his passing is a huge loss for this community, and i cannot imagine what his loss can mean to his friends and family. I was actually on an airplane today and one of the mp3s from the Salt Lake City show and was really enjoying it, not realizing that Jensen was the one who made that possible. Thank you for this, and much more. Rest in peace buddy.
-Brian - http://bvsrant.blogspot.com |
| Walkerwoman |
Posted - 03/19/2007 : 13:32:39
Here I am again, reading this thread. It makes me feel closer to my son to read what people say about him. Your condolences mean a great deal. I wonder if Jensen can check in once in a while......I suppose it doesn't matter but I want him to know that he was loved and is missed. Thanks again for caring about him.
Sharon |
| HeywoodJablome |
Posted - 03/19/2007 : 13:21:07
Wow, talk about shitty news. Just saw this thread today. What else to say except condolences to the family.
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| Newo |
Posted - 03/08/2007 : 13:18:39
Hi Jensen's mother,
the contact I had with your son was some conversations on this forum, small ones but enough to know the tremendous warmth he exuded. I wish strength and peace for you and your family and friends.
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Gravy boat! Stay in the now! |
| floop |
Posted - 03/07/2007 : 22:11:11
quote:
Originally posted by Walkerwoman
I'm Jensen's mom and just wanted to tell you that Jensen stayed with me when he met you at the Anaheim Frank show. He really enjoyed that evening with you. I was so hopeful for him after that evening. Anyway, thanks for being his friend and sharing that time with him.
quote:
Originally posted by floop
i was shocked and heartbroken to hear this news (Jensen's sister passed this horrible news along to me last week)..
i've known Jensen since the Frank Black For President / Abstract Plain days.. he was always one of my favorite guys. we traded many bootlegs along the way (he set me up with some serious frank discs). he always extremely smart and insightful and funny..
we met up at the Anaheim Frank show a few months ago and had a good time hanging out before and afterwards..
words can't really describe how much of a shame this is, or how sad.
i just want to say how sorry i am for Jensen and his family..
see ya Jensen. i'll remember you...
i'm glad he had a good time. we had some good laughs that night. after the show Jensen - not being too familiar with alcohol laws - carried his beer with him out of the House Of Blues and into Downtown Disney. A security guard busted him and made him throw it away.. that was some pretty funny stuff.
thinking about it now, if i had any inkling as to what he was dealing with i would have tried to spend more time with him.
thanks for your response.
and again, i'm terribly sorry for your loss.. your son was a cool dude |
| Walkerwoman |
Posted - 03/07/2007 : 17:59:42
I'm Jensen's mom and just wanted to tell you that Jensen stayed with me when he met you at the Anaheim Frank show. He really enjoyed that evening with you. I was so hopeful for him after that evening. Anyway, thanks for being his friend and sharing that time with him.
quote:
Originally posted by floop
i was shocked and heartbroken to hear this news (Jensen's sister passed this horrible news along to me last week)..
i've known Jensen since the Frank Black For President / Abstract Plain days.. he was always one of my favorite guys. we traded many bootlegs along the way (he set me up with some serious frank discs). he always extremely smart and insightful and funny..
we met up at the Anaheim Frank show a few months ago and had a good time hanging out before and afterwards..
words can't really describe how much of a shame this is, or how sad.
i just want to say how sorry i am for Jensen and his family..
see ya Jensen. i'll remember you...
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| gapu |
Posted - 03/07/2007 : 08:23:45
i once had a very good friend from tokyo, japan. we were talking pretty much via a messageboard and icq. we told us everything, no matter if it made us a happy or sad. we were discussing everything and were trying to help eachother, yeah, we we're kinda soulmates. but anyway, most of the time was actually very enjoyable, because we both are/were people that are most of the time pretty happy and satisfied in their lives, no matter how shitty a day can be, there was always something that made us feel lucky. i haven't changed this way to live my life... but i can't tell it from him...
i remember when he was praising his girlfriend, they really seemed to be the perfect pair. i even talked to her sometimes... but when they split i really felt that his heart was broken. i was trying to help him as good as i could, but his reply's became more and more rarer. i was worrying pretty much for him, knowing that i could do was emailing... nothing more! i knew he would have to go through this all alone, which made me feel worse. in his last emails he was telling me that he is very thankful for the mail i've sent him, but at the moment needs just a bit of time for himself, finding back to the routines of live...
...but i guess he hasn't found it. about 2 weeks later i knew something wasn't right. i was always hoping to receive a new mail, i didn't lose hope and was praying that he'll reply to my mails... but no, nothing. i received his very last mail about 4 years ago. i am often thinking about him...
it's known that many people in japan are murdering themselves. well, i don't know the truth, but i often felt like this could also be what happened in his case... anyway, i am pretty sure that he is not alive anymore.
i know how you guys feel around here. I never knew Jensen, but he really seemed to be a very nice guy. i am sure he has deserved better and so i wish him all the best. wherever you may be! RIP
@Jensen's Mom: i am sure no one who never lost a child, can have just a clue, how it feels. i am pretty sure no one wants to feel it. but as we already said, there's a place here for you! i really wish you all the strenght you and your family need to get trough this hard time. carry on. together you'll manage it! |
| beckett trance |
Posted - 03/07/2007 : 00:05:07
Heartbreaking. So sorry to read this thread. Rest in peace, Jensen.
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| Carl |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 17:47:40
quote:
Originally posted by Walkerwoman
I am Jensen's mom. I want to thank you for all the wonderful things you said about my boy. He loved Frank Black and all you guys. He fought the good fight. Depression was his companion for over 13 years. I hoped and prayed that he could find a way to live with it but in his four-page suicide note he said his life had become unbearable. I miss him completely. Rest in peace, my dear one.
We'd like to thank you for stopping by. Everyone is deeply shocked by this. It's hard to imagine what it feels like, but our thoughts are with you and your family and friends. |
| Cult_Of_Frank |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 16:04:16
Goodbye, John. I hope your family is doing well and you are enjoying yourself more in the afterlife, whatever that may be.
 "Now you're officially my woman. Kudos. I can't say I don't envy you." |
| TRANSMARINE |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 10:50:56
quote:
Originally posted by Walkerwoman
I am Jensen's mom. I want to thank you for all the wonderful things you said about my boy. He loved Frank Black and all you guys. He fought the good fight. Depression was his companion for over 13 years. I hoped and prayed that he could find a way to live with it but in his four-page suicide note he said his life had become unbearable. I miss him completely. Rest in peace, my dear one.
I don't think there is one forum member here who is not deeply saddened by the loss of your son...and I cannot imagine the suffering and grief you must be grappling with. But there is love here for you, and always a place for you here with us on FRANKBLACK.NET, if you so wish to come. We would love for you to find solace here. Peace be with you.
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His name is Dalton. He's got a degree in philosophy.
-bRIAN |
| coastline |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 10:32:21
Your son was a great spirit. Most of us here never met him, but I feel like I knew him a little bit from interaction on this message board, and his death has caused me considerable sorrow. Nobody deserves the pain he must have suffered. As a parent of two boys, I have no idea where you're getting your strength right now, but I wish you all the best as you carry on.
 Please pardon me, for these my wrongs. |
| Walkerwoman |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 10:13:30
I am Jensen's mom. I want to thank you for all the wonderful things you said about my boy. He loved Frank Black and all you guys. He fought the good fight. Depression was his companion for over 13 years. I hoped and prayed that he could find a way to live with it but in his four-page suicide note he said his life had become unbearable. I miss him completely. Rest in peace, my dear one. |
| Ten Percenter |
Posted - 03/06/2007 : 05:09:33
Poor soul. He was always a very witty contributor, and started off many a fine and noble thread:
http://forum.frankblack.net/topic.asp?ARCHIVE=true&TOPIC_ID=334
"I thought that I had reached bedrock, but I had yet to reach Birmingham..." |
| floop |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 23:51:54
i was shocked and heartbroken to hear this news (Jensen's sister passed this horrible news along to me last week)..
i've known Jensen since the Frank Black For President / Abstract Plain days.. he was always one of my favorite guys. we traded many bootlegs along the way (he set me up with some serious frank discs). he always extremely smart and insightful and funny..
we met up at the Anaheim Frank show a few months ago and had a good time hanging out before and afterwards..
words can't really describe how much of a shame this is, or how sad.
i just want to say how sorry i am for Jensen and his family..
see ya Jensen. i'll remember you... |
| Arm Arm Arm |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 19:54:20
I'm sorry to read this and offer my condolences to his family and friends. |
| rodney |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 14:43:17
Goodbye Sir. |
| mrgrieves1971 |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 14:38:19
So sad. RIP. |
| Frog in the Sand |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 12:57:10
Saddest thread ever.
Adios amigo :-(
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| darwin |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 11:57:25
I want to pass my condolences to his family and hope they can find some comfort in knowing that Jensen was a loved member of our community. He will be missed, but maybe memories of him can help us all to remember to appreciate the people, ideas, and worlds that we love. |
| Fast Man |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 11:29:01
From what I remember he did not have a deep sounding voice.
The funny thing is I did not see his picture posted on this site before the show. I just saw a guy sitting in back with recording equipment and I asked if it he was the person from this site. He was very friendly and we chatted for a few minutes.
I would almost bet that it was not him talking though. That is rule number one when you are a taper. Dont talk!  EVERYONE was talking really loud though. It was the worst show I had ever been to as far as audience participation.
It will now be a show I remember forever since reading this tragic news.
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| coastline |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 11:09:11
Yeah, that was him. He seemed embarrassed for both the quality of the recording and the inattentiveness of the crowd. I'm curious -- is that his deep voice between some of the songs. Looking at his picture (he was a great-looking guy), I can imagine him have a fairly deep, authoritative voice.
Please pardon me, for these my wrongs. |
| Fast Man |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 10:52:23
Oh my gosh! Is this the guy I met at the Salt Lake City show and who recorded it for us? I think he and I were the only real fans at the show. Everyone else was talking to the top of their lungs.
Wow, I am stunned. He was really cool and very friendly. What a huge loss.
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| tobafett |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 10:03:54
So long, edbanky. rip |
| two reelers |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 06:27:35
how small all my problems suddenly are
I joined the cult of Souled American / 'cause they are a damn' fine band |
| vilainde |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 05:32:10
Here's the obituary from the funeral home:
http://www.meaningfulfunerals.net/fh/obituaries/obituary.cfm?o_id=92978&fh_id=10655
I felt awful when hearing the news. It's both very sad and nice to go through his posts and have a look back at the discussions we had with him. He was funny and clever. He came to France last year and I wish we had met. Bye edbanky.
Denis
"Can you hear me? I aint got shit to say." |
| gapu |
Posted - 03/05/2007 : 05:18:06
oh my god, this is tragical!
i never knew him, because i was not too much around lately...
but do i really need to know more to know that this is one of the saddest threads i ever read? guess not.
i don't know what else to say... there's nothing left to say, but goodbye! RIP
Condolences to family and friends! |
