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This_Guy
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Canada
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 Posted - 06/22/2004 : 02:24:19
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i have in my posession, a faulty gene.
it's the one that makes me fall deeply for a person i have yet to meet.
we've known each other for 7 months now and we mutually aknowledge a bond with a strength that is unprecidented.
does this constitute a severe personal evaluation, or can this kind of hopeless romanticism lead to the blissfully blissful bliss that has, up to this point in my life, eluded me? |
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benji
> Teenager of the Year <
New Zealand
3426 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 04:10:13
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a friend of mine married a girl he met over the internet.....they're very happy.
so for it i say.
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GypsyDeath
Zapped Profile
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Posted - 06/22/2004 : 04:11:00
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As you may or may not know myself and another forum member had the same sort of thing going on for around 6 months.
I think it is very easy to feel such a bond with someone youve never met. All you can do over the internet is talk, and so you get to know eachother much better. I also think it is actually really hard to lie over the phone! At least for me anyways...I could never do it, and so it mostly becomes a very honest relationship as well.
How far away does this person live from you? Is there a hope that you may meet?
I think there are a lot of things that you obviously will never know if this bond is for real unless you meet. There has to be that spark when you meet...like there is when you speak to eachother now.
The bad point of 'all you can do is talk' is you run out of things to say after a while....and if you do actually get it together, then you may find theres no excitement about finding out about eachother...you kinda do the honey moon peroid of a relationship before you are even in one...that can effect a relationship either way.
There hundreds of success stories of people meeting through the internet. All I can say is look deep down in to your self, and imagine being with this person. where you are in your life now, would you be prepared to sacrifice it all for this person? Just dont rush plans - it only ends in disaster. But i think you should meet them, if you both recognise there is a bond there..else you will always be wondering...
Most people that end up in these sort of erm, situations are hopeless romantics. Im not. Im romantic, but only in certain situations. im not hopeless! And it still happened to me.
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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ramona
"FB Quote Mistress"
USA
3988 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 06:49:25
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Is Jim still coming over to see you, Mel? I know that may be too personal. Feel free to ignore me. 
Nosiness aside, I think there is a level to Internet relationships which is very intimate and you are forced to really get to KNOW the person right off, b/c email and the written word is powerful and you tend to talk about more meaningful things in writing then you sometimes would in life. Plus, you often get so MUCH of a persons story straight away and that can really be a great thing.
I haven't had any Internet romances, but I met three of my bestest friends on this here forum and I talk to them every day and I know a lot about their lives and families, just as much as I know about my friends who I see all the time.
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I replace you easily, replace pathetically,
I flirt with any flighty thing that falls my way.
But how I needed you. When I needed you.
Lets not forget we are so strong... so bloody strong. |
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pfeffa
= Cult of Ray =
Aruba
367 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 07:55:27
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If it's any consolation, I know two couples who met over the Internet and have been married for over 3 years each. They liked the chance to really get to discuss themselves before the attraction began. Good luck! I think it's really cool. (Not that you have to get married, but online relationships can end up being long term.)
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TattooedJeebus
- FB Fan -
Canada
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Posted - 06/22/2004 : 08:32:18
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I pretty much agree with everyone else on this. Of course it also depends on the people involved. I met a girl on the net, we did the whole relationship thing for a few months until I had teh chance to move half way across the country to be with her. We lived together for 4 years before we split up and went our seperate ways, but at that point you can't really say the breakup had anything to do with us having started as an "online relationship".
I've actually met several women on the net who I've gone on to have relationships with...obviously none of them worked in the end, but again, that had nothing to do with how we met. I actually met my current girlfriend online. We've only been together a couple months, mind you, but mark my words, I'm going to marry this girl!
My verdict: Online relationships A- OK. Just like any other relationship except the challenges are a bit different. Meeting someone online isn't weird or freaky like alot of people still think, it's just another way of meeting someone. People probably used to say the same things about dating services and singles bars.
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gracie
= Cult of Ray =
United Kingdom
573 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 08:40:48
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[quote]Originally posted by GypsyDeath
As you may or may not know myself and another forum member had the same sort of thing going on for around 6 months.
Hey what happened with that, i didn't realise it had ended although i was away for a while, did i miss something.
Again as Ramona said if its too personal just tell me to shut up.
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GypsyDeath
Zapped Profile
3575 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 09:07:46
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erm, I hope jim doesnt mind me discussing it...but in the last month or so, we kinda faced up to a few facts. Although we still - well, I still - have feelings for him, we realised that we were way too ahead of our selves, and these next few years in my life are very important ones for me, that I wasnt prepared to jeopardise in the case of the things I would have to sacrifice for our plans to be put in to action.
Selfish? maybe. But not as selfish as it would have been to let the plans go ahead and say this after he had moved to england. Jim needs time to himself as well. We both do.
After all, Im 18, and he's only 21. And for once I am not going to rush myself. If its meant to be - then we will end up together - however, right now is not the right time for either of us. Weve said, ya know, in 5 years or something, who knows? But as I said, whats meant to be is meant to be.
I dont regret the 6 months that we spent basically 'together' - no matter how painful a lot of it was - because Jim is a fantastic guy, that I admire and respect a great deal, and always will. Even thought we didnt really have an internet relationship - we did form an incredibly strong emotional bond. Its a shame we met when we did..because had we met a few years later...who knows?
He wont be coming over this sumer any more - he would be here by now had he come over - but hopefully we can arrange another time in the next year for us to meet up. Hopefully.
Erm, yeah, Jim, sorry if you didnt want that publicised, but as we did everything else so publicly, it only seemed fair. However, if you arent happy about it, shall delete pronto.
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 06/22/2004 : 09:14:15
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I think that pretty much proves what you were saying Ramona, about maybe meeting 'The One' and not being in the right place in your life for it yet...
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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ramona
"FB Quote Mistress"
USA
3988 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 09:32:54
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Yeah. Well, I think (if you don't mind me saying) that it is good you made this decision and were honest about it. Personally, I was thinking 6 weeks was a hell of a long time to be together SUDDENLY no matter how much you know each other. Anyway, I know this is all very personal, so I won't get into too much about YOUR life, but I know it must be hard for you both. I hope you are both OK! 
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I replace you easily, replace pathetically,
I flirt with any flighty thing that falls my way.
But how I needed you. When I needed you.
Lets not forget we are so strong... so bloody strong. |
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GypsyDeath
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3575 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 09:35:36
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Yeah, thanks ramona. Yeah....6 weeks at the beginning seemed like it wouldnt be long enough...and as it got closer, it felt like it might not ever end...
But yeah. Hopefully well still meet. And yeah, Im ok. Im really good actually. Had a good few weeks for once.
Last day at college tomorrow! woohooo!
Last deadline tomorrow! Oh shiiit!!!
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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jo
= Cult of Ray =
United Kingdom
516 Posts |
Posted - 06/22/2004 : 09:40:35
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being someone who married my husband after initially meeting him over the internet (via a Throwing Muses email list, and TMO, then via Yahoo Games, as he said all Brits were crap at sport, so I thrashed him at Othello, thus proving him wrong), we got to meet at the second Throwing Muses Gut Pageant, and something just sort of clicked! He was lucky enough that he was still young enough to get a two year working visa (he's Australian) to come over here, do some travelling and just see how it went, and I was lucky enough that it all worked out damn well, and we've been married over a year now - just had our anniversary too..
so what I'm saying is, there's good and bad stories, and in the end, you need to meet up with this person, work out what it is you want.
There, you all know way too much about me now, as well. eek. |
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Posted - 06/22/2004 : 10:18:42
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The internet is a wonderfull place though, I met some great people online (friends... not relationship wise).. I have unfortunatley met one creep though... ick.. i'd forgotten about that
can't get into anything these days. Always on the peripheral. Always terrified, exhausted, annoyed, pissed, anxious, out of it-out of the loop, out of my mind, out of time.
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This_Guy
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Canada
146 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 01:19:24
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| thanks to you everybody. your honesty and open book-ed-ness are deeply appreciated. |
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 06/23/2004 : 01:32:25
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Yeah, I hope it all goes well.
Keep us posted!
Well, you dont have to, im just nosy, and wanna know how you get on!!!
But yeah, ignore me if you wish.
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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Opaque
= Cult of Ray =
USA
251 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 01:33:19
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I've met a goodly number of my "internet friends" for real live and in person. And for the most part they have been very good meetings. Haven't ever actually hooked up with any of them tho, relationship wise. Of course, one was a romantic interest, one was a maybe... and the rest of them were just friendly.
I guess I don't see any reason not to hook up with someone that you met on the net. It has sort of turned into a way to meet people. Just like meeting people any other way. Except for a lot of times what you type gets lost in translation...
"You've gotta listen for a weird, strange noise. Something out of the ordinary." - John Crichton |
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WolfManMikeLonely
= Cult of Ray =
USA
936 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 07:14:59
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I've met some great people on the internet, and I am talking about the people on this board. My only advice is don't hook up with people you meet at shows you play, especially if you play little punk scene shows.
"Hey fuck you if you don't like it."
-Johnny Thunders
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Monsieur
* Dog in the Sand *
France
1688 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 07:53:14
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My cousin married a girl he met through the internet and went to Canada to marry her.
They got divorced after 6 months or so.
It didnt really surprise me as my cousin is a loser. I like him a lot, and he is very very nice, but he just screws up everything he does. |
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WolfManMikeLonely
= Cult of Ray =
USA
936 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 07:54:10
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....Matt?
"Hey fuck you if you don't like it."
-Johnny Thunders
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
17125 Posts |
Posted - 06/23/2004 : 12:55:39
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I was gonna post a long post with my thoughts and experiences on this, but I don't have the time and to be perfectly honest, my opinion usually counts for shit anyway. So all I will say is good luck This_Guy. I hope it all works out for you both. That would be nice.
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lysithea
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Posted - 06/23/2004 : 17:19:04
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| they can totally work. i say go for it. it's sort of an interesting phenomenon in that you get to know someone in a way you wouldn't face to face. inhibitions appear to be less at first and it's almost like you get to know them deeper ... faster. (thinks dirty thoughts, but i digress.... ) anyway... go for it and don't be ashamed of how you met.... because sometimes people tend to get embarrassed saying they met online. it's all too common these days. to connect with one out of the billions out there... it's probably something special. :) |
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Malax
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
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Posted - 06/23/2004 : 17:26:57
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What the hell gypsy!? I always thought you were like late 20's early thirties. Or I could be thinking of someone else. Man! That was a suprise. Agonygypsydeath. You should start a thread people can post problems just to you.
I May've Joined The Cult Of Frank If I Knew What The Balls Was Going On.
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GypsyDeath
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:21:53
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Haha! Yeah, I tend to take on the agony role with my friends...erm, and my mums friends too. Especially to do with relationships. My mums friends actually comeround to talk to me now! haha.
I bet you never thought your movie would turn out this way
You crossed the other way, youd hope i wouldnt see you, you say youre doing fine, but thats not what it looks like, your undercovers on...
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TarTar
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:37:13
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Yeah, I thought you were older, too, GypsyDeath. Mid-20's or so. I detected it in your typing. Apparently, my detector is fucked up, or your typing is.
"You gotta watch the mota, Thurston. Yr fuckin memory just goes out the window." |
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pfeffa
= Cult of Ray =
Aruba
367 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:43:19
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All I can think of is how awesome it would be to meet a guy who loves Frank Black!
Any woman that lucky should move to the same city and devote herself to this man.
darkness, come teach me |
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pfeffa
= Cult of Ray =
Aruba
367 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:44:04
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Oh, and I mean a straight guy...I'm sure there are gay men who like Frank, too.
darkness, come teach me |
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Cult_Of_Frank
= Black Noise Maker =
Canada
11687 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:47:20
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Seems like there are a lot more male fans than female. You may get your wish yet. :)
 "When 5000 posts you reach / Look as good you will not, hmmm?" |
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shineoftheever
> Teenager of the Year <
Canada
4307 Posts |
Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:51:47
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With that picture in the other thread I'll get in line, you are a cutie pfeffa! 
"Here today, Guano tomorrow" |
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shineoftheever
> Teenager of the Year <
Canada
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 15:54:04
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My cousin met his wife on line, they are very happy as far as I know.
"Here today, Guano tomorrow" |
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BLT
> Teenager of the Year <
South Sandwich Islands
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 16:27:42
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| That's nothing. Germans meet each other online, then have a rendezvous where one kills the other on video, then eats him. |
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ObfuscateByWill
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 16:40:20
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Met my wife on the internet.
We've been married for four years.
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VoVat
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
USA
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 18:04:00
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Yeah, I thought you were older, too, GypsyDeath. Mid-20's or so. I detected it in your typing.
People in their mid-twenties make a lot of typos? :P
I met my current girlfriend over the Internet, although I don't think I'd say we really had an "Internet relationship" as such. We made friends online, but we met in person a few times before we started going out officially.
Cattle in Korea / They can really moo. |
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TattooedJeebus
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Canada
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Posted - 06/24/2004 : 21:36:25
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quote:
Originally posted by pfeffa
All I can think of is how awesome it would be to meet a guy who loves Frank Black!
Any woman that lucky should move to the same city and devote herself to this man.
darkness, come teach me
Damn, where were you 3 months ago? Where was I, for that matter?
/irony
If you're getting cotton mouth, my mind is like an ocean... |
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Carlo
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Posted - 06/25/2004 : 20:35:17
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| online dating is for people who can't get laid in real life. |
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TattooedJeebus
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Canada
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Posted - 06/25/2004 : 21:53:10
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quote:
Originally posted by Carlo
online dating is for people who can't get laid in real life.
Man, that's eloquent.
/single tear
If you're getting cotton mouth, my mind is like an ocean... |
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Coldheartofstone
* Dog in the Sand *
Canada
2025 Posts |
Posted - 06/26/2004 : 00:11:35
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quote:
Originally posted by Carlo
online dating is for people who can't get laid in real life.
There is a lot more to it than just getting laid.
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internet relationships. (opinion please)
