| T O P I C R E V I E W |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:26:16
or no sex please we're british
where did we get that reputation? and where is the dividing line between promicuous and repressed? or is it not an issue of how many but of expression? and I don't mean verbal.
Can you be sexually open having had one partner? does having no partners mean you are repressed or does it mean you take it more seriously, does true love wait? does having lots of partners automatically equate to looseness and commitment issues or is it related to bad luck or loneliness (possibly drunkness).
Is it quantity or quality that counts here?
are we looking for someone to love?
or someone to stay in love with?
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| Newo |
Posted - 05/23/2005 : 04:11:26
quote:
where did we get that reputation?
It's difficult to take that rep seriously when you live in a place where hordes of English women in schoolgirl outfits march down the main drag waving plastic cocks about.
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| benji |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 19:17:32
i find it all a biut irrelavent.
why does it matter?
yes, yes - society makes it matter, but by ascribing to that doesn't make it right tho does it.
i have a dear friend who was seriously contemplating suicide because he was a 26 year old virgin. he felt he had failed because he's expected to have fucked lotsa women and hadn't.
it sickened me.
suffice to say (1 year later) he's now had more sexual partners than me. but is he any happier?
not 1 bit.
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| VoVat |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 19:06:34
quote:
where did we get that reputation?
The same place as the one about the bad teeth, probably. I tend to doubt it's true, though (the sexual repression one, that is).
quote:
Can you be sexually open having had one partner?
I'm not sure what "sexually open" means, in this context. I don't think that's a sign of repression, no. I don't think repression has much, if anything, to do with the number of partners. It's more about feeling uptight about sexual matters, or something like that.
quote:
does having no partners mean you are repressed or does it mean you take it more seriously, does true love wait?
Could be either, depending on the person.
quote:
does having lots of partners automatically equate to looseness and commitment issues or is it related to bad luck or loneliness (possibly drunkness).
Depends partially on how quickly you move from one partner to another, I should think.
Personally, I don't have any moral issues with promiscuity, but I think it can often lead to complications. I'd leave it to the professionals.
I was all out of luck, like a duck that died. I was all out of juice, like a moose denied. |
| kathryn |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 18:25:37
(that's nice of you to be so nice as to not saying something that would
have been less than nice)
 I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 18:17:19
(my comment was a nice way of saying something that would have been less nice had i said it in another way, but didn't)
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| kathryn |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 18:14:28
(resisting temptation to make several bad jokes)
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 18:08:03
she wasn't my type |
| kathryn |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 18:03:51
Not to sound judgmental, but that's wacky. I've known
a couple of people who didn't have sex until they
were well into their 20s, but that takes the take.
You didn't try to avail her of her virgin status, floop?
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 16:46:32
my ex-girlfriend's mom was friends with a woman who was in her mid-40's and had never had sex.
granted, she was a pretty serious Christian, and unmarried. but nonetheless. even Christians need a little of the old in-out sometimes.. if not more so
i would say there's some serious repression happening there.
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| kathryn |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 15:24:18
Back on topic for a sec, I have had a long-term
relationship with someone who slept with
over 100 women as well as someone who
slept with only one, and there was no difference
in terms of skillz , sense of adventure and creativity. It
all depends on the person and whether they are
un-repressed, whatever that word that I can't think of
is.
Back to nannies! I've never slept with one, just as I've never
slept with a Brit. I am a loser.
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 13:07:08
where does this leave Billy Idol? |
| jediroller |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 13:04:27
The british nannies are now my idols.
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| floop |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 12:42:54
if shiny was serious he is also now my idol |
| The King Of Karaoke |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 09:40:39
shineoftheever is my hero.
It was this guy
but now it's shiney
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| mun chien andalusia |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 09:39:51
there is no love without sex. and i really think that being sexually open has nothing to do with the number of partners one has had. sexuality is all in your head. one can have a different partner each night and have worse sex than a monogamous couple. actually i enjoy sex with steady partners because there is more time to explore. one night stands are more like going to the bathroom for me. a mere physical need.
 i bash newbies for a living |
| zub_the_goat |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:43:25
heh, sorry, didnt mean to sound defensive, im not very nice this week, too much revision, nasty people and too little chocolate, sorry, its really cool that you're willing to say what you really feel about what you want, just a case of personal taste |
| Surfer Rosa |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:38:20
No criticsm from me Zub - just an observation and comment. I'm very much aware that my views aren't the most conventional.
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes. |
| zub_the_goat |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:31:24
i wasnt saying there was anything wrong, good on those who can separate love and sexual fulfilment, in a way it makes love more pure, but i dont have the ability to do that, perhaps one day i will who knows |
| Surfer Rosa |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:28:07
I don't see what's wrong with getting love from one place and sexual fulfillment from another. It's like shopping from a couple of independent stores instead of a large supermarket.
Plus you then run a greater chance of being happy with what you get.
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes. |
| zub_the_goat |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:24:37
sometimes having lots of partners just means that people are desperate for attention, despite claiming that they only want a one nights stand etc, i guess i just cant imagine having sex with someone i didnt care about...i think people in britain are getting less repressed in just going out and 'pulling' etc, but girls who do are still often looked down on. |
| Surfer Rosa |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:24:16
Yes, yoga isn't having the payoff I was hoping for.
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes. |
| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 06:15:56
quote:
Originally posted by Surfer Rosa
I don't really care what other people think - at the end of the day I'm the one who has to sleep with myself
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes.
If only it was just you.
I guess floop WAS right!
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| Surfer Rosa |
Posted - 05/18/2005 : 00:37:53
Different things work for different people. I don't believe monogamy is for everyone, but I think it's dangerous to not be honest with yourself - you need to understand why you do behave or believe in certain things. I don't really care what other people think - at the end of the day I'm the one who has to sleep with myself and my thoughts at night, though at the same time I don't usually share my opinions on monogamy and sex with anyone who doesn't know me that well (in every day life that, the mask of the internet is a wonderous thing).
I think confidence in your sexual descisions is a powerful and liberating thing whether that be to remain celibate, commit to one partner only or to whatever.
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes. |
| shineoftheever |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 22:05:21
i had a threesome with a pair of british nannies, that was quality... |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 21:10:21
I think I read that LBF thinks it's easier for a woman to get laid?
Hehe no K, not disqualified, I was just thinking about this rep we have and wondering what counts as repressed anyway. Some of the people I knew thought I was pretty repressed, I thought (and told them) that they should go fuck themselves. It seems people have different ideas as to what is what, and can be pretty judgmental according to their own standards. I was interested in the universal thought about this.
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| floop |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 20:08:41
i don't think my joke came across as planned. i was implying that LBF could get a sex change, in Mexico.. but not that i'd like to have sex with him once he did (however tempting) |
| kathryn |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 19:55:38
Boys, I hate to interrupt the barely disguised homoeroticism
but I have to ask LBF why he thinks that women have
a low sex drive, which is the assumption I read into his
post. LFB?
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:59:04
across the border in Mexico. half price |
| Little Black Francis |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:58:11
ew
 ... guitar god potion |
| floop |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:56:23
quote:
Originally posted by Little Black Francis
I'd love to be a woman but keep the sex drive I have now, I would be fuckin all the time
that could be arranged |
| Little Black Francis |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:55:15
I'd love to be a woman but keep the sex drive I have now, I would be fuckin all the time
... guitar god potion |
| kathryn |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:55:02
I've never had sex with anybody British. Does that
disqualify me from posting in this compelling
thread?
I still believe in the excellent joy of the Catholics |
| floop |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:31:59
i think everyone is looking for love, some of them just don't know it.
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| Carl |
Posted - 05/17/2005 : 18:29:37
Quality counts, but if you can get it, then just be careful, I suppose.
Who am I to give advice? :) |
