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| kathryn |
Posted - 01/16/2005 : 11:02:31
This may sound lame but it fascinates me. I've lived in big cities and rural nowhere spots in different parts of the world and I always notice the degree to which people make eye contact.
Some situations are more clear cut, i.e.
mass transit + rush hour + metropolis =
hardly any deliberate eye contact
vs.
If an hour up a remote trail you see someone, you'll do more than make eye contact -- you'll stop and chat.
After a while in a big city, no eye contact weirds me out. But I also become quite uncomfortable with overly familiar people who, as was the case with a total stranger yesterday at the grocery store, stop and try to start a conversation.
I would love to hear about this from different forum members in different parts of the world.
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| GypsyDeath |
Posted - 01/28/2005 : 04:55:40
hmm. I used to have a real problem with eye contact.
Im nto sure what it was, but i tend to express my emotions very stongly and clearly through my eyes, with out even knowing..and so when i was doing the whole teenage angst thingabout 5 years ago, people would say they were too intimidated to look at me in the eyes, because i scared them! Used to really annoy me, cos i want peopel to look me in the eyes when im speaking to them!
Fortunately thats undercontrol now. so all is good.
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| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 01/28/2005 : 02:35:53
Exactly. And now you already know too much and must be shot.
Love, love, my season |
| VoVat |
Posted - 01/27/2005 : 18:35:20
But if I AM the magician, shouldn't I already KNOW my secrets? Or are they so secret that even I don't know them?
"Reunion? Shit union!" |
| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 01/27/2005 : 02:32:31
Because a magician never reveals his secrets.
Love, love, my season |
| VoVat |
Posted - 01/26/2005 : 19:29:12
I can do magic? How come no one ever told me?
"Reunion? Shit union!" |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/26/2005 : 18:03:02
it's good to see that VoVat magic in action...
Yes Kathryn, they do (or used to) have hooters in the UK, there was one on the way to my favourite alt-pub and I used to go past it every wednesday and friday, and one night I was a bit early to meet my friends and thought what the hey! I was quite young at the time.
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| VoVat |
Posted - 01/26/2005 : 17:46:17
I've been to a topless bar. The roof blew off during a hurricane, and nobody ever bothered to replace it.
"Reunion? Shit union!" |
| kathryn |
Posted - 01/23/2005 : 17:14:34
I am not sure which question to ask first?
You've been to Hooters?
or
They have Hooters in the UK? (That is where you live, right, Miss Kittie?)
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| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/23/2005 : 17:13:17
they've never let me into a topless bar
hooters is the closest I've managed
one day, one damned day...
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| kathryn |
Posted - 01/23/2005 : 16:59:48
I've never been to a topless bar. I can only imagine the eyecontact there.
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| Superabounder |
Posted - 01/23/2005 : 10:38:13
I agree, it is a delicate issue. At topless bars it is always a little disconcerting. I mean, the women from the city usually prefer you look at them right in the eyes or at the "other" eyes if you know what I mean. |
| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 01/23/2005 : 04:00:49
Some consider it rude the other way round. Funny how something like this can throw up such varied opinions. No wonder so many people in the world don't get on.
Love, love, my season |
| slaveish |
Posted - 01/22/2005 : 18:11:30
um, c.o.f., I've been living in nyc for almost a year, and i've noticed that too. people do make eye contact. it makes me comfortable. i lived in l.a., where people seem too uncomfortable to make eye contact, or too caught up in their own thing. riding on the subway and checking each other out, whether it's someone hot or not, is just fun. most of the time I bring something to read, but sometimes I just like to look at people. when I pass by people on the sidewalk, if it's not crowded and I'm clearly coming upon another lone person, I do make eye contact. I think it's rude not to. sometimes I say hi too. I've done this everywhere I've lived. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/22/2005 : 16:48:43
I see I am going to have to try harder.
I thank you for freeing my mind of this burden of perceived offence, maybe now, at long last, I can once again sleep at night!
(how am I doing now? I'm a bit worried I've gone soft in my old age)
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| Erebus |
Posted - 01/22/2005 : 15:31:01
No smiley required. And you did not offend in the least on those other occasions where you asked whether you had offended but I deigned not to answer. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/22/2005 : 12:35:32
well as soon as he posts his picture we'll know if he has a "forum asshole" crown on or not.
do I need to add a smiley thing to this? I'd rather not. I don't like them.
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| KimStanleyRobinson |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 14:53:49
of course it was!  |
| Erebus |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 14:47:38
quote:
Originally posted by KimStanleyRobinson
quote:
Originally posted by Erebus
Actually, agoraphobic would work too. But what I meant, sans  , was to imply that I'm way above others and that therefore to look into their eyes would be as though from a great height, but since I'm afraid of heights I have to forego the pleasure.
*gets up from "forum asshole" throne*
I'm sorry - I seem to have taken your seat.
Forgive me.
I assume you realize it was all in jest, as was, I assume, your reply. |
| KimStanleyRobinson |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 14:27:12
quote:
Originally posted by Erebus
Actually, agoraphobic would work too. But what I meant, sans , was to imply that I'm way above others and that therefore to look into their eyes would be as though from a great height, but since I'm afraid of heights I have to forego the pleasure.
*gets up from "forum asshole" throne*
I'm sorry - I seem to have taken your seat.
Forgive me. |
| kathryn |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 12:49:53
Yes and like you want to feed them some food.
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| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 12:46:59
DO they look like you want to scruff their hair and make sure they have on a scarf in the chilly weather too?
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| kathryn |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 11:48:54
Dean looks like my cousins in Greece. Just like them.
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| Cult_Of_Frank |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 08:31:25
Cheeky? Scamp?! Dick Dastardly?!?!?!?!!
Thank-you!
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| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 08:22:20
Not a good idea, bad idea. Bad.
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| Erebus |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 08:20:27
Good idea Dean. In lieu of a cartoon, just think Rasputin. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 07:33:51
He looks like a cheeky little scamp is what he looks like.
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| Homers_pet_monkey |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 03:46:07
You know what, having now seen a few pictures of Dean, I have no idea where that comparison comes from. He looks nothing like him.
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| Cheeseman1000 |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 02:36:14
Yeah, something like Dick Dastardly.
Right?
And if a double-decker bus
Crashes into us
To die by your side
Well, the pleasure and the privilege is mine. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/21/2005 : 01:03:22
That cuts no mustard young man!
Besides Dean, we all know what you look like you little scamp you.
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| Cult_Of_Frank |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 19:11:35
Erebus, the key is to post a cartoon semblance of yourself. Like my guy with the cape and moustache. Then at last you will be free as you can post this everytime the topic comes up.
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| Erebus |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 18:22:43
How did I know the picture thing was gonna come up again? Still ain't got no picture. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 17:27:37
Sorry, sleepy brain glossed over the 'most', you do make me laugh sometimes though.
SO when are you posting this picture mister? And how's your frown lines nowadays? (polite in every incarnation me)
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| Erebus |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 17:24:59
No, not everyone, hence the "most" in the first post. Not even I was ever stupid enough to look down on everyone. |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 17:13:35
heh heh, surely you don't look down on everyone?
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| Erebus |
Posted - 01/20/2005 : 17:09:27
quote:
Originally posted by KimStanleyRobinson
ummm,
ok.
Anyway - erebus - you're agoraphobic, not acrophobic.
*snickers*
Actually, agoraphobic would work too. But what I meant, sans , was to imply that I'm way above others and that therefore to look into their eyes would be as though from a great height, but since I'm afraid of heights I have to forego the pleasure. |
