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Monsieur
* Dog in the Sand *

France
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Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:00:22  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
It sounds mathematically impossible, but last week, I worked for 106 hours.

Next week, it will probably be the same story.

I don't see my friends anymore, I don't even think about getting myself a girlfriend again.

It's Friday evening and I won't be going out because I'm too tired.

I am 24 and I am thinking about this masochist choice of life I made last year.

I have some pictures of myself on my desk where I look very happy and healthy and I don't recognize myself anymore.

It's really insane.


I will show you fear in a handful of dust

Daisy Girl
~ Abstract Brain ~

Belize
5305 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:05:29  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
What do you do? Is this a temporary thing? Meaning will it get better? I am so sorry and can empathise with the long hours. What a bummer. Hang in there and if you ever want to talk, email me. I am usually around :)

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whoreatthedoor
> Teenager of the Year <

Spain
2873 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:07:04  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Hey! We need a job to live. We don't live for a job.

Probably it isn't as easy as it sounds.


"¿Qué estás buscando? ¿Te gustaría multiplicarte por diez, por cien?, ¿Estás buscando adeptos? ¡Busca ceros entonces!"
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Frog in the Sand
-+ Le premiere frog +-

France
2715 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:11:29  Show Profile  Visit Frog in the Sand's Homepage  Reply with Quote
You're too young for such a life, Ad'. Looks like you're digging yourself a hole and burying yourself alive.
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Carolynanna
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<

Canada
6556 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:16:36  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Yeah, what is it all for?

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"The things that will destroy us are: politics without principle; pleasure without conscience; wealth without work; knowledge without character; business without morality; science without humanity,
and worship without sacrifice."
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SpudBoy
= Cult of Ray =

Equatorial Guinea
649 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:42:04  Show Profile  Visit SpudBoy's Homepage  Reply with Quote
I have asked myself that question many times. Monsieur, you are not alone. I have gone for multiple months at a time working that kind of schedule (starting at age 21), and about 60% of the time it has resulted in significant career advancement - the other times I just burn out and hit the wall. It takes a while (especially when you are in a fairly new job...say less than three years) to get your rhythm down, and become familiar enough with your market and the related red tape to slice through that stuff so you're not there til midnight wrestling with it.

I have the feeling that my working hours are about to increase again (already starting to), but this time I hope to see that I can maintain an even pace instead of the feast or famine cycle that seems all too frequent in the modern business world. I may report from the field if this happens, if I can remember the location of this thread, or my own name.

To answer your question, Carolynanna - I have found that it is all for money, industry credibility, and the dream of retiring before you are 40 so you can do whatever your heart desires and maintain a comfortable lifestyle. The downside risk is that you don't have the luck you hope, or that merit does not get you there. Then it was a waste. But by that logic, so is working a crap job until you are 80 at less of a burn rate. I have often thought about trying to find something I truly love and doing that for 35 hours a week or less, just to pay minimal bills. But then how will we do everything we want to?

I don't regret all the spent midnight oil, as I am very happy with my life today and any number of changes could have altered that path. I feel a lot older than I am because of it, though - so just be careful and try to pace yourself. Balance is everything. Start a band, go play in a fountain, and don't let the bastards get you down. It really is self inflicted, so it can be alleviated as easily.



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floop
= Wannabe Volunteer =

Mexico
15297 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  12:58:03  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
what do you mean "anymore"?

just kidding. i can relate. my hours are generally insane too. this week has mellowed out a bit, but it's not uncommon for me to work 70 80 hours a week.. sometimes more. but i get breaks between projects, which sort of balances things out. plus i like my job..

but there are times when i wonder what it would be like to have a normal job with normal hours and stuff.. i can never make plans during the week because i never know when i'm getting off work on a day to day (hour by hour) basis.



ist es möglich für ein quesadilla skrotum zu lecken? beim sprechen der quesadillas von LBF, ja. ja in der tatheheheheheheehehee!

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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:21:55  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I don't care where/what it gets you, that many hours IS NOT WORTH IT!

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Daisy Girl
~ Abstract Brain ~

Belize
5305 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:34:42  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I think you know, to each his own. I am a workaholic... but I have paid in terms of lost friendships, health and stress levels. It is addicting in a way especially if you like what you are doing. But when I finally get a job again I am going to make sure there is me time, I eat healthier and manage my stress through exercise.

Anyway Spud Boy great points-- especially about burn out.

Here is an article to avoid burn out:
http://www.zeromillion.com/personaldev/early-burnout.html

Here are symptoms of burnout:
http://www.docpotter.com/BeaJob__sympt.html
http://www.ivillage.com/work/job/succeed/articles/0,,187833_55823,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=1&pba=adid=10836261


Here is a test to see if you have burn out.
http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/burnout1_r_access.html

PS Fast Company has an article in the Oct. Issue "Still Believe in Work-Life Balance?: Forget it (But here's how to have a life anyway)

Edited by - Daisy Girl on 09/17/2004 13:43:35
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whoreatthedoor
> Teenager of the Year <

Spain
2873 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:36:10  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm sure that's not the case, but my mother always says: "You'll be the richest man in your cemetery"


"¿Qué estás buscando? ¿Te gustaría multiplicarte por diez, por cien?, ¿Estás buscando adeptos? ¡Busca ceros entonces!"
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Monsieur
* Dog in the Sand *

France
1688 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:44:28  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
It is not really temporary, during the first three years we all work about 90 hours a week, and every weekend.

I guess that I agree with Mr Eris, money is one of the main motivations. The job is very interesting too, but many other things are interesting. I just have so many projects in my life, and it requires money to get there. Due to certain circumstances, I won't get any money from my parents, so I need to earn it by myself. At least I have the feeling that I am going somewhere (though I don't know precisely where).




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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:55:13  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
And quite right too that you don't get money from your parents. I still think you should cut down on your hours though, but it's your choice so I guess there is not a lot that the rest of us can say on this one.

Good luck in your job anyway.

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PixieSteve
> Teenager of the Year <

Poland
4698 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  13:57:03  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
suck on chocolate salty balls
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the thing
= Cult of Ray =

United Kingdom
313 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  14:11:48  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
That feast or famine thing sucks, I'me either working a 90hr week, or panicky and worrying that I'm only working a twenty hour one, and nervously awaiting the next onslaught (or worse, a trip to the unemploymeny office) but then I guess thats the trade off for running your own business. I thank my lucky stars that I'm not answerable to "The Man". Just remember nobody ever said on their death bed "I wish I spent more time at the office".

The thing I alway ask my missus, also a compulsive worrier/workaholic is "Will anyone die if you dont do your job?" If the answer "No" then go home and have a beer...


Forget the cults I got me a whole church!
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Posted - 09/17/2004 :  14:21:18  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
You are really not alone...I think I work to much either, but I work on my own business, so I allways have many things to do. Sometimes I wonder if it is wothwhile...
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  14:24:16  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
What are your business' guys?

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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<

Iceland
8201 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  16:37:51  Show Profile  Visit Cheeseman1000's Homepage  Reply with Quote
I came up through the comparatively creative educational route, and never imagined I'd end up in a nice, relaxed 9-5 office job. Yet that's exactly the situation I'm in, and I love it. I love the security of a proper job, the ease of planning your life round, the guaranteed income. I'm also dead happy in the office cos everybody's cool and the job is fine, and I can do a bit of creative stuff in my spare time.
So its not neccessarily a depressing drudge. If you can find a decent job then its fine. I'm OK for money and everything.

I'm not normally very good for advice at this sort of thing, but I'd agree with general sentiment here - surely its not worth it. Money's not the 'be all and end all of everything', and you should take your chance to have fun while you're young.


So, I finally got my X-Wing
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VoVat
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<

USA
9168 Posts

Posted - 09/17/2004 :  21:12:51  Show Profile  Visit VoVat's Homepage  Click to see VoVat's MSN Messenger address  Reply with Quote
I could never work the insane hours some people here do. I mean, if you're working that much, when do you get a chance to spend all the money you make? On the other hand, I certainly wouldn't mind working more hours than the part-time ones I do now. Or getting paid a lot more than I do. Either way would work.



Brick is red, and Hitler's dead. Hang me!
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benji
> Teenager of the Year <

New Zealand
3426 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  04:03:00  Show Profile  Visit benji's Homepage  Reply with Quote
man, 106 hours.
some of the guys i work with do 80-90 hours weeks week in week out, and they only thing that keeps them going is the money.
i personally couldn't do that just for the sake of working, but doing something you love makes it a totally different ballgame.
in a few months time, i'm moving a new country to start a job working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, and i can't wait cause it's doing something i love, and something that i trained for 7 years to do. at presnt i work for 40 hours doing something i don't love and i hate every minute of it.

the only other time i worked those kinda hours was working on a dairy farm when i was younger, and it was the most rewarding experience i have ever had....working 14 hour days, i was totally at piece with myself.

so i can understand where you guys are coming from, and while i don't have any advice to give, it's something to know you ain't alone....


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Newo
~ Abstract Brain ~

Spain
2674 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  06:36:17  Show Profile  Click to see Newo's MSN Messenger address  Reply with Quote
I´m a writer and musician, HPM, and if I work 106 hours it´ll be because I want to. But don´t hold your breath.

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Jódete, tío,
Que se joda tu hermana,
Que se joda tu hermano,
Que se joda tu madre,
Que se joda tu tía,
¡Porque soy policia!

Que se jodas, currante,
Que se joda tu perro,
Que se joda tu hijo,
Que se joda tu amante,
No me pidas razónes,
Soy el Hombre ¡cojones!
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Posted - 09/18/2004 :  08:09:58  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I´m a designer (contemporarany objects for the house), I work with my husband and we have a own label...so you can see that I always have a lot of work to do! But I like it very much!
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  09:47:29  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
You can't take it with you, as they say.

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floop
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Mexico
15297 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  12:32:42  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
you can if you're Egyptian



ist es möglich für ein quesadilla skrotum zu lecken? beim sprechen der quesadillas von LBF, ja. ja in der tatheheheheheheehehee!
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  14:44:10  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Anyone here Egyptian?

Didn't think so.

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floop
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Mexico
15297 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  18:21:07  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm part Egyptian.



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apl4eris
~ Abstract Brain ~

USA
4800 Posts

Posted - 09/18/2004 :  18:23:08  Show Profile  Visit apl4eris's Homepage  Reply with Quote
Sometimes I walk like an Egyptian.
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mun chien andalusia
= Quote Accumulator =

Italy
2139 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  03:21:03  Show Profile  Visit mun chien andalusia's Homepage  Click to see mun chien andalusia's MSN Messenger address  Reply with Quote
my great grandmother was living in egypt, though she was greek. does this count?


join the cult of errol\and you can have a beer\without having to quit smoking
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  04:04:58  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
No, no, no. Look take it with you if you like, see if I care. You won't be able to do anything with it.

"All the old paintings on the tombs
They do the sand dance don't you know
If they move too quick (oh whey oh)
They're falling down like a domino"

Damn it Apl, now it's stuck!



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floop
= Wannabe Volunteer =

Mexico
15297 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  10:28:19  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Homers_pet_monkey

No, no, no. Look take it with you if you like, see if I care. You won't be able to do anything with it.



don't ask to borrow my dvd player in the afterlife



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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =

United Kingdom
17125 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  13:31:10  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'll just borrow the big man's.

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SpudBoy
= Cult of Ray =

Equatorial Guinea
649 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  15:20:39  Show Profile  Visit SpudBoy's Homepage  Reply with Quote
I am spending the rest of today making miniscule model representations of everything in my house. Getting the track credits done on plastociene CDs at 1/30 scale is a bitch, but at least I'll be able to listen to obscure limited edition singles in the afterlife.


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floop
= Wannabe Volunteer =

Mexico
15297 Posts

Posted - 09/19/2004 :  17:59:03  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
i doubt the big man has dolby digital 5.1 surrounds.

plus, his collection isn't as cool.



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Posted - 09/20/2004 :  07:32:02  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm now a student again, so long 60 hour weeks, hello earning little spending little living off boiled veg cheap fags and beer


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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~

Belgium
15320 Posts

Posted - 09/20/2004 :  07:54:22  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
floop, you crack me up, man.

monsieur, i used to have a job like that and i loved it and i prided myself on not having a life. do you love your job? that is the question! sounds like right now you are not.


I still believe in the excellent joy of the Frank

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cassandra is
> Teenager of the Year <

France
4233 Posts

Posted - 09/20/2004 :  08:20:11  Show Profile  Visit cassandra is's Homepage  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by rita

I´m a designer (contemporarany objects for the house), I work with my husband and we have a own label...so you can see that I always have a lot of work to do! But I like it very much!



Hey Rita, what's the name of your label?

pas de bras pas de chocolat
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PsychicTwin
* Dog in the Sand *

USA
1772 Posts

Posted - 09/20/2004 :  10:02:18  Show Profile  Visit PsychicTwin's Homepage  Reply with Quote
work to live

don't live to work

the hours of your day on this earth are far more precious than any kind of high salary
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