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undone_20
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 Posted - 04/26/2004 : 00:43:54
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i tried posting this at the weezer boards where, but they are down, so i guess i can post it here too
however, it doesn't seem to fit these boards, oh well........
i have a crush on this girl, her name is chantel
here is the situation:
she is a year older than me, in grade 12, graduating this year
we are both on our SRC (student council) and thats pretty much how we became friends, so for a whole year we have been good friends at school, we always talk and joke and what not
we dont hang out outside of school, at least not often, but if we were to, and when we do, we would both be comfortable with pretty much any situation
she likes the same kind of music as me (infact, she came to see Pixies with me a week and a half ago, a concert which i was supposed to go see with my old girlfriend who cheated on me and dumped me, and it was like 3 days after this happened that i asked her to come ((my parents also came so it wasn't like a date, just two friends hanging out)) )
i have liked her for some time, but nothing serious just a little crush, even when i was going out with my other girlfriend (brooke), i figured the two of us would be better together, which probably had some input in my break-up, but that is kind of irrelivant
she is really easy to talk to, really fun, and she likes the same kinda movies, music, people as i do, and hates the same things i do too
now, here is the problem, it is rather open that she likes some other dude
for probably a month almost everyone knows about it, even the dude that she likes
it is also known that he likes her
it isn't to my knowledge that they have hooked up, but i am pretty sure she still wants him, at least, but i dont really know there whole situation
so the question is, what do i do?
i dont want to make it awkward if she says she doesn't want to go out with me, cuz that would make everyone on our SRC uncomfortable and i am really not for that
and its not like i am missing my chance, i mean, she does like some other guy...
so should i just try and hang out with her more outside of school and see where it goes? or what should i do?
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klikger
= Cult of Ray =
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 00:52:47
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| On one hand, you should think about your relationship with the other members of student council. On the other, you're not going to see hardly any of these people again for the rest of your life, and who knows, this girl could end up to be your soulmate. But I'm not telling you what to do, you have to figure it out. My advice: go listen to Praise Chorus by Jimmy Eat World and then decide. |
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 00:55:14
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thats a crappy song...
hahaha, but yeah, i really have no idea what to do...
the year is almost over, so now its not so much that i dont want to make it awkward for the rest of them
its i dont want to make it awkward for me, and i am not really sure what the situation is with that other guy
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mun chien andalusia
= Quote Accumulator =
Italy
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 00:56:10
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the fact that the weezer board is down is positive. good luck with the rest...
 join the cult of errol\and you can have a beer\without having to quit smoking
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Little Black Francis
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 00:58:42
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Next thing you know you're 30.
Dude, I'm sorry the Weezer board is down, but maybe I can help you out... Dude, stop worrying about relationships with other people and instead channel that energy internally. You are fretting far too much about something that in the long run in your life is completely meaningless. I don't expect you to believe me at the moment So I'm giving you some time traveling advice, never chase someone... do your best, but let them go... don't push them away, but don't let them push you around
No wonder I'm not fucking married...
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klikger
= Cult of Ray =
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 01:27:01
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| Fine, you don't like the song? This is what you do: Acknowledge that getting your feelings hurt is only temporary, and it's not going to kill you or even hurt in the long run. If you ever want to be with somebody, you're going to have to make yourself vulnerable. Might as well get some practice now while you're young. Better to take the chance now, and if you don't succeed at least you know that you have it in you to try again. It sounds like you two have quite a bit in common, so try. You might regret it someday if you don't. And LBF isn't married, and I am. =P Soon anyway. So listen to me. ;) |
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Broken Face
-= Forum Pistolero =-
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 06:09:27
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i'm with klikger on this one - all your life is making tough choices and putting yourself out on a line. the things i worried about in high school seem ridiculous today. suck it up, go for it, and your wounds will always heal
-brian
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
Canada
27 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 07:15:11
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haha, you guys seem to think i am hurt over this
it is just a stupid crush, i was just asking how i should go about persuing it
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The King Of Karaoke
> Teenager of the Year <
USA
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 07:49:39
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I think you should use two of my favorite methods of expressing my feelings of affection for the opposite sex from back when I was in the twelfth grade; complete anonymity, and stalking from afar.
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He also say my lucky numbers are: 16 27 36 23 11
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 10:24:19
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I'd love to be able to say KoK is a complete nutter, but that last post is uncomfortably close to my own experiences. My advice would be, wait and wait, and don't do anything about it, until she ends up going out with this other guy. Then, you can mope around feeling bitter and listening to depressing music. The Smiths or somesuch.
Heh heh, really, I wouldn't recommend my own advice here...
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ShakeyShake
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 11:08:49
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Forget it, you haven't got a chance
"I joined the Cult of this guy / 'cause they took my other picture away |
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Carolynanna
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Canada
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 11:13:16
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ShakeyShake
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
1058 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 11:14:32
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I was just trying to be mean actually,i didnt read all the way through his (heartbreaking im sure) story
"I joined the Cult of this guy / 'cause they took my other picture away |
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
17125 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 11:30:09
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Yeah you have little chance. Forget her kid!!!
Hansel and Gretel have formed a band, .....And You Will Know Us By The Trail Of Breadcrumbs!!! |
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El Barto
= Song DB Master =
USA
4020 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 13:47:13
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What do you do? Fuck it, I've been in the same situation in high school where I really liked this girl but she obviously and openly liked this other guy. I just became the "good friend," as much as I wanted to bang her. Just be friends...I know that's hard to accept, and I wouldn't accept it in your situation either, but being a bystander, why not just stay friends? What would you get out of a relationship that you won't out of just being friends? And if you say sex or anything thereof, you can have multiple girls instead of just one.
But hey, everybody's different? Me, I'm a one woman man...I'm a long-term relationship guy. I'm a "fuck dating" kinda guy. You're in high school, you will have plenty of this. I'm only a few years removed from high school but in those few years I grew more than I ever would have thought. She already likes some other dude, so I say fuck it...remain friends. That doesn't mean that you have to completely drop your charm (if you have any). But REMEMBER: nice guy always finishes last.
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GypsyDeath
Zapped Profile
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 15:24:59
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aww, darling, tehy dont alkways finish last, they just ahve to wait for the girls to (if they ever) get out of the bad boy stage we all seem to be so attracted too.
Im outa that stage. decided to take a look at my life and realised waht i really want.
I love you for what I am not,
I did not ask for what I have got.
You will get used to me.
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 15:31:38
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Ha, I can imagine you being attracted to the bad boy chav's, Mel...
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Newo
~ Abstract Brain ~
Spain
2674 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 15:35:48
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Friend of mine reckons she likes her men to be about ten percent bastard.
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
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27 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 15:50:41
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well, the advice isn't what i wanted to hear, but its what ive been thinking too
it really sucks though, she is really awesome
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shineoftheever
> Teenager of the Year <
Canada
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 15:50:54
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Holy Crap! I can't believe there wasn't a barrage of sarcastic replies. This is the nicest forum ever!
undone, stop being her "friend", if you paid for her pixies ticket tell her she owes you $50! I know it's tough to be a jerk when you are not one but you have to try! Tell her you think you guys could hit it off and if she doesn't buy it make her eat a bug or something!
Good luck
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
Canada
27 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 16:02:41
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hmmm, eating a bug, thats a good idea
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Newo
~ Abstract Brain ~
Spain
2674 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 16:26:03
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My mothers' boyfriend gave me a creativity-tool book as a present with about 30 epigrams by Heraclitus in it. Today's one was 'Those who approach life like a child playing a game, moving and pushing pieces, possess the power of kings.'
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Malax
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
1340 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 17:22:49
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Originally posted by undone_20
haha, you guys seem to think i am hurt over this
it is just a stupid crush, i was just asking how i should go about persuing it
Rock on!
His replies since the first post including the one above have deserved the sarcastic comments and such, that it hasn't got. undone_20 (clever handle might I add) just because you are used to the fucks on the weezer board doesn't mean all boards are like that. Here if you ask a question like you have asked you will get a well thought out response from all ages. Your other post - not the kind of help I was looking for -is equally as needless. We don't need a bunch of guys coming onto this board cos they've heard its nicer here but then act like the weezer board guys anyway. You know Im not saying you've commited murder or anything just my initial reaction to your replies is this.
I May've Joined The Cult Of Frank If I Knew What The Balls Was Going On.
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
Canada
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 19:20:06
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Malax, your post didn't make sense to me
first you say "Here if you ask a question like you have asked you will get a well thought out response from all ages."
which implies that questions like mine are welcome
but then you say "other post - not the kind of help I was looking for -is equally as needless. We don't need a bunch of guys coming onto this board cos they've heard its nicer here but then act like the weezer board guys anyway." which implies the complete opposite
so, what exactly are you trying to tell me?
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El Barto
= Song DB Master =
USA
4020 Posts |
Posted - 04/26/2004 : 19:28:54
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I know it's not what you want to hear...your heart turns your brain to mush. You'd be letting yourself up for a big letdown if you continue to chase after a girl who's obviously hot for someone else...you might miss someone important on the way.
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ProverbialCereal
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 22:59:10
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Years ago... I liked this one girl for about 2 years. I was really shy back then so I never told her I liked her. Someone told me later that she liked me at one point. It wouldn't have mattered cuz I wouldn't have been able to ask her out.
I don't regret being pathetic like that. It helped me learn not to "obsess" over a girl that was a flirt and would just break my heart if I went out with her.
I don't know if this even pertains to your situation. haha. But, you'll realize what you have to do. I realized that this girl was not for me, and then a couple years later I finally got a girlfriend and we've been dating for three years.
This girl may be for you, or she may not. It's up to you decide, man.
Just don't let her destroy your sweater.
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ProverbialCereal
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Posted - 04/26/2004 : 23:03:37
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Oh yeah, this girl I liked is married now and she even got knocked up before getting married.
This other girl that liked me a few years ago also got knocked up shortly after I started dating my girlfriend.
I swear all the girls who like me get pregnant or married shortly after their crushes on me end.
... Or do they ever end ... ?
Join the Cult of ... to be continued |
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klikger
= Cult of Ray =
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 00:07:04
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| I kinda liked this girl that had a crush on a good friend of mine. He liked her too. However, my friend turned out to be a jerk and we stopped hanging out (and she stopped crushing on him). After this, I started developing feelings on this girl. Over time, they grew and grew. Finally, one day I decided to start talking to her. Over the next few days, she let me know that she was really into me too. Long story short, I am now engaged to her and she loves me more than any other girl I've ever known. She had a crush on me the whole time too, but thought that I wouldn't be interested in her because I was so much older than her. (I was 24 and she was 18 when we got together.) My point is this: People can have crushes on more than 1 person. I was into like 3 or 4 different people when my fiance and I hooked up, and she probably still liked my ex-friend when we got together too. So just because you don't know that she has a crush on you doesn't mean that she doesn't. If she were only thinking about the other guy then she probably wouldn't have gone to the concert with you. Well nevermind, it WAS the Pixies. However, I still say go for it. Don't be afraid of a little pain if it doesn't work out. Easy for me to say, right? And Jimmy Eat World has 3 good albums compared to Weezers' 2. :P |
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Malax
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 07:26:50
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Originally posted by undone_20
Malax, your post didn't make sense to me
first you say "Here if you ask a question like you have asked you will get a well thought out response from all ages."
which implies that questions like mine are welcome
but then you say "other post - not the kind of help I was looking for -is equally as needless. We don't need a bunch of guys coming onto this board cos they've heard its nicer here but then act like the weezer board guys anyway." which implies the complete opposite
so, what exactly are you trying to tell me?
Rock on!
I appreciate that it may be a little hard to understand bur your questions are welcome, who am I to say you shouldn't ask questions. I don't recall saying anything about your initial post. Just all the ones since. We DONT need a bunch of guys coming on here acting like they do on the weezer boards. If you actually read what a posted instead of reading what I didn't post (implying) you may have understood. From what I read, all your posts after the question are just needless you laugh because you think people are thinking you are really upset and say its not what you wanted to hear. Did I see a thankyou for people being nice and helping and not ripping you? I don't think so. Im trying to tell you don't be a fucking moron.
I May've Joined The Cult Of Frank If I Knew What The Balls Was Going On.
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Malax
* Dog in the Sand *
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 07:29:47
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Originally posted by klikger
I kinda liked this girl that had a crush on a good friend of mine. He liked her too. However, my friend turned out to be a jerk and we stopped hanging out (and she stopped crushing on him). After this, I started developing feelings on this girl. Over time, they grew and grew. Finally, one day I decided to start talking to her. Over the next few days, she let me know that she was really into me too. Long story short, I am now engaged to her and she loves me more than any other girl I've ever known. She had a crush on me the whole time too, but thought that I wouldn't be interested in her because I was so much older than her. (I was 24 and she was 18 when we got together.) My point is this: People can have crushes on more than 1 person. I was into like 3 or 4 different people when my fiance and I hooked up, and she probably still liked my ex-friend when we got together too. So just because you don't know that she has a crush on you doesn't mean that she doesn't. If she were only thinking about the other guy then she probably wouldn't have gone to the concert with you. Well nevermind, it WAS the Pixies. However, I still say go for it. Don't be afraid of a little pain if it doesn't work out. Easy for me to say, right? And Jimmy Eat World has 3 good albums compared to Weezers' 2. :P
But how good are weezers? One blue album is worth 3 JEW albums. I like JEW but they aren't ever going to be as good as weezer were.
I May've Joined The Cult Of Frank If I Knew What The Balls Was Going On.
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Carolynanna
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Canada
6556 Posts |
Posted - 04/27/2004 : 08:55:09
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Originally posted by Newo
Friend of mine reckons she likes her men to be about ten percent bastard.
-Owen
haha,lol.
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 11:24:40
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Woah Malax, calm down lad!!! I don't see what he's done wrong. When he said it wasn't what he wanted to hear, I think he meant that he really likes the girl and was kind of hoping that the advice would be to go for her. I think he appreciates the advice we have given him though.
You do don't you undone_20???
And I can't believe we didn't give one single, sarcastic reply. Boya, boys, boys!!! We are slacking!!!
Hansel and Gretel have formed a band, .....And You Will Know Us By The Trail Of Breadcrumbs!!! |
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
17125 Posts |
Posted - 04/27/2004 : 11:25:39
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Woah Malax, calm down lad!!! I don't see what he's done wrong. When he said it wasn't what he wanted to hear, I think he meant that he really likes the girl and was kind of hoping that the advice would be to go for her. I think he appreciates the advice we have given him though.
You do don't you undone_20???
And I can't believe we didn't give one single, sarcastic reply. Boya, boys, boys!!! We are slacking!!!
Hansel and Gretel have formed a band, .....And You Will Know Us By The Trail Of Breadcrumbs!!! |
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Jason
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 11:46:48
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If she talks about this other guy WITH and AROUND YOU then you probably have no shot at all. If she never even mentions him around you, you might have a shot.
If so, casually ask her out. Or not.
My vague high school memories recall intense fears of rejection and insecurity. Now that I'm an old bag I'm not bothered by rejection anymore and don't hesitate too much in these matters. |
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klikger
= Cult of Ray =
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 11:49:47
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But how good are weezers? One blue album is worth 3 JEW albums. I like JEW but they aren't ever going to be as good as weezer were.
The blue album and Pinkerton are both great albums. I tend to think all 3 of JEW's are great, too. But I agree, none of them can beat the blue album. |
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undone_20
- FB Fan -
Canada
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Posted - 04/27/2004 : 16:33:06
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Originally posted by Malax
I appreciate that it may be a little hard to understand bur your questions are welcome, who am I to say you shouldn't ask questions. I don't recall saying anything about your initial post. Just all the ones since. We DONT need a bunch of guys coming on here acting like they do on the weezer boards. If you actually read what a posted instead of reading what I didn't post (implying) you may have understood. From what I read, all your posts after the question are just needless you laugh because you think people are thinking you are really upset and say its not what you wanted to hear. Did I see a thankyou for people being nice and helping and not ripping you? I don't think so. Im trying to tell you don't be a fucking moron.
I May've Joined The Cult Of Frank If I Knew What The Balls Was Going On.
*Adapted By Carolynanna*
well, the post you mentioned had meaning, i was telling people who were replying as though they thought i was hurt, or that were giving me the advice i wasn't looking for
because it appeared as though they misread my problem
and i was just clarifying it for them so they dont make replies that aren't of as much use to me
i appologize for being a damn moron, i never realized that there were such strick rules regarding how many times one can post in a thread that they created
i will keep that in mind for next time
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