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darwin
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
USA
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 Posted - 10/19/2005 : 10:12:17
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Originally posted by Surfer Rosa
Most people will outlive their own parents, it's a fact of life, just a really shitty one.
Not to be too callous, but I think it beats the alternative. |
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 10:45:24
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No kidding Darwin.
He was 47 Carolynanna. Hardly any of my mom's friends still have their husbands with them - almost all of them either lost to cancer or heart disease - ironically the one who everyone thought would be the first to die because of his lifestyle (hard drinking, smoking, heavy eating of all the wrong food) is the only one still alive.
Lead me not into temptation; I can find the way myself. |
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Carolynanna
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Canada
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 10:58:33
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I always think it totally sucks when people don't live to retirement.
I mean what a jip, all that work...
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Don't believe the hype. |
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 11:00:08
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Originally posted by Surfer Rosa
He was 47
Tell me that's a typo.
Swimming in the heavy water, buried in the sand
Happy hearts fall from my shaking hands
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 11:23:49
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Sadly no.
Lead me not into temptation; I can find the way myself. |
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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 11:24:46
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That's obscenely unfair (not to mention a mere 4 years old than I am). I am so sorry, Nic.
Swimming in the heavy water, buried in the sand
Happy hearts fall from my shaking hands
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 11:30:53
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Thank you Kathryn. And you and I both know nothing is ever really fair.
Lead me not into temptation; I can find the way myself. |
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Superabounder
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 10/19/2005 : 22:51:38
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Originally posted by Carolynanna
I always think it totally sucks when people don't live to retirement.
I mean what a jip, all that work...
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Don't believe the hype.
My dad died on the very first night that he was finally finished being "on call" for the hospital. Basically, his entire adult working life was spent having a pager and being called at various times when the hospital needed his opinion on a patient. He would have weekends off based on a schedule with his partners, but on the very first night that he was finally done being on call and didn't have to worry about it any longer (although still was going to be working during the days), he died. Was carrying his baby grandson, stumbled on a funny stair at my brother's house, and fell down. Protected the baby by twisting and landing badly on his leg, and died during the surgery to repair the leg that night.
Worst thing was my (ex)wife and I driving my mother home that night, and seeing my dad's work clothes where he had removed them, and the look on her face as she realized he would never walk back in with her again.
They had 38 years of marriage, great at times, pretty bad at others, but workable and loving at the end.
I tend to think of human beings as huge rubbery test tubes, too, with chemical reactions seething inside |
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darwin
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
USA
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Posted - 10/20/2005 : 00:55:11
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This thread is bumming me out. That's horrendous Superabounder. I'm sorry for your loss and hope your mom is managing well.
It amazes me how we're all just one mistake away from being dead and yet most of us live for so long. |
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 10/20/2005 : 01:16:45
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38 years together is pretty impressive and sorry to hear about that Superabounder. Kind of off topic but I read somewhere that the average marriage in the UK lasts for 11 years.
Lead me not into temptation; I can find the way myself. |
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Superabounder
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
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Posted - 10/20/2005 : 03:13:56
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Thanks all. Sorry to bum you guys out-I'M FINE, and so is my mom now but it has been 11 years! Time is about the only thing that lessens these things. Surfer, I'm sorry about your father (and also my sorrow goes out to Rita, Wilhelm, and Scott).
Back to the nuclear family talk! Oh, and incidentally, I was with my ex for 11 years, though only married for 9 of them. And divorce was actually very good for us, even with a child, as we are all good friends.
In fact last night, I was out to dinner with my ex, her boyfriend, her previous ex-husband before she was marrried to me, his parents, my ex's sister, and others to celebrate my former step-daughter's 16th birthday. Did anyone get all of that straight?! That's nuclear, baby!!
I tend to think of human beings as huge rubbery test tubes, too, with chemical reactions seething inside |
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Carl
- A 'Fifth' Catholic -
Ireland
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Posted - 10/20/2005 : 04:45:31
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Originally posted by Superabounder
Was carrying his baby grandson, stumbled on a funny stair at my brother's house, and fell down. Protected the baby by twisting and landing badly on his leg, and died during the surgery to repair the leg that night.
That's very sad. Not that it makes it any fairer, but a least he protected his grandson. |
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bumblebeeboy2
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
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Posted - 10/22/2005 : 06:43:41
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parents split when i was about 13 i think, speak to my mum all the time (in fact we've become a lot closer) and very rarely hear from my dad...
The Monkey Helper has had a make-over! http://www.monkeyhelper.co.uk (that is my band) |
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