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kathryn
~ Selkie Bride ~
Belgium
15320 Posts |
 Posted - 07/19/2005 : 05:55:13
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I just received an evite for drinks at a fun bar with some cool former co-workers in honor of a friend who is visiting from out of state.
The quandry: I adore everybody invited except a detestable woman I used to be friends with until I had enough and stopped talking to her and taking her shit. Nobody else likes her much, but we all worked together for a long time and people are nice and want to be inclusive.
Should I go and politely make the minimum small talk with the uber-bitch? Or should I blow off hanging with the rest of the group, which will otherwise be fun? I can get together with the guest of honor one on one... but I'd like to attend the drunken girls' night out ... but it will include that bitchy woman I can't stand.
Advice?
Thanks.
Sometimes, no matter how shitty things get, you have to just do a little dance. - Frank
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whoreatthedoor
> Teenager of the Year <
Spain
2873 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 05:59:27
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Get drunk and puke over her.
El amor es la distancia más larga entre un punto y otro |
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Joey Joe Jo Jr. Chabadoo
* Dog in the Sand *
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Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:01:25
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Be proud and beautiful and smile at her like you don't mind her presence, like you reached higher goals...
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:08:03
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What whore said basically. But go, even if you don't intend to do that. Nothing could be worse than letting someone you hate influence your decisions and social life.
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vilainde
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Niue
7442 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:10:46
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If you happen to go and engage in a girl fight, could you try to have someone take pictures?
Denis
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Broken Face
-= Forum Pistolero =-
USA
5155 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:35:07
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go and have fun, be civil but short, and generally avoid her
-Brian
If you move I shoots!
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
8201 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:35:21
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Go, but take mace.
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
4209 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 06:40:19
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Go. Why miss out on a good night for the sake of someone elses personal shortcomings? In my opinion life is too short for that.
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Frog in the Sand
-+ Le premiere frog +-
France
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Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:08:40
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Well, imho the only real question is: is it really healthy to see current or former co-workers outside of work?
My answer is:
No.
Join the Cult of France / And get Honeycomb weeks in advance |
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whoreatthedoor
> Teenager of the Year <
Spain
2873 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:13:41
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You have lost some of the best experiences of your life, Frog.
El amor es la distancia más larga entre un punto y otro |
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Surfer Rosa
> Teenager of the Year <
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Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:15:37
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Frog you are right on certain levels, though it depends entirely on what your relationship with them is like.
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Cheeseman1000
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
Iceland
8201 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:16:23
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You really have, Froggy. My current co-workers are bags of fun on a night out, I wouldn't miss it.
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Frog in the Sand
-+ Le premiere frog +-
France
2715 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:45:11
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I never said I never hung out with co-workers. I'm just saying that's unhealthy ;)
Join the Cult of France / And get Honeycomb weeks in advance |
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PsychicTwin
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
1772 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 07:51:41
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quote:
Originally posted by Frog in the Sand
I never said I never hung out with co-workers. I'm just saying that's unhealthy ;)
Join the Cult of France / And get Honeycomb weeks in advance
I totally agree. I like to keep my work and personal life as separate as possible. I've lost jobs before because people/bosses found out that I played in a band (something I was very vocal about). I don't even mention that at all any more, the less assumptions co-workers make about you the better, that is the way I feel. And I DEFINITELY wouldn't want to be around my co-workers drunk.
but kathryn, in response to your question, I think you should just go and straight up ignore her or just speak to her as minimally as possible. If she ends up really pissing you off or annoying you more than you can deal with, just leave! (but drive safe if you've been drinking) |
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Carl
- A 'Fifth' Catholic -
Ireland
11546 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 08:45:16
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Don't talk to her unless you absolutely have to.
"Don't speak
I know just what your saying
So please stop explaining
Don't tell me 'cause it hurts!" :D |
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Newo
~ Abstract Brain ~
Spain
2674 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 10:56:12
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You could all take it in turns to talk to her
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offerw
* Dog in the Sand *
South Africa
1264 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 11:01:13
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....and ask to take your turn when you're drunk
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danjersey
> Teenager of the Year <
USA
2792 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 22:11:12
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Originally posted by Joey Joe Jo Jr. Chabadoo
Be proud and beautiful and smile at her like you don't mind her presence, like you reached higher goals...
****
thats sounds about right. can't pass on times somtimes in the end it turns out to be just fine and dandy and glad that you had me friend. |
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scruvs
= Cult of Ray =
353 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2005 : 22:40:24
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just like you can't let fear control your life...you can't let bitches control your decisions. go, have fun. if it's not fun. leave. you don't have to go home, but just go somewhere where the fun is. stay as far away as possible because it'll increase the chances of having fun. if you plan to go and piss the bitch off because you want to show her how much you hate her, then i recommend staying home and listening to honeycomb instead.
unless it's the cat fight thing, then go.
someone needs to write a 'choose your own adventure' story for this.
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
17125 Posts |
Posted - 07/25/2005 : 08:51:07
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I'm going to be part of a similar night on Friday I have just discovered. Similar in the awkwardness anyway. It seems there has been an interesting turn of events within our group since I went on holiday. I can't leave them alone for five minutes.
Hope it went well Kiki.
Don't believe the type!
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Homers_pet_monkey
= Official forum monkey =
United Kingdom
17125 Posts |
Posted - 07/25/2005 : 10:20:11
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Well it's all a bit complicated and probably quite boring for an outsider.
Don't believe the type!
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 15:30:18
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Bet you have a great time. :)
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 15:33:33
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Does that ensure a good night out, or are you going to put laxative in the cakes?
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 15:39:17
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Oh, thaaaaat kind of baking! (that I've never heard of)
So the first thing I said I guess. You could put it in the cakes too though ;)
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 15:45:11
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But you'll be all mellow and relaxed. You might slip up and (Gasp!) be nice to her. Best stick to alcohol and pick a fight I reckon ;)
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 15:56:55
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Na, I'm more likely to have a strong discussion, but that's it. I probably get a bit louder and think I'm funnier. Eventually I just fall asleep, hopefully not before I get home.
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 16:00:48
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What did she do to you? You really hate her :D
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 16:09:08
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She sounds awful. Never really understood how people get like that.
Happy, erm, baking.
Off to bed now. I need my beauty sleep :(
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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TOTIPOTENT
- Master of Differentiation -
USA
247 Posts |
Posted - 08/10/2005 : 16:53:15
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quote:
Originally posted by whoreatthedoor
Get drunk and puke over her.
Be careful with that. A kid recently got in trouble for vomiting on his teacher: http://www.thekansascitychannel.com/news/4774953/detail.html
 "I joined the Cult of Frank / I wasn't expecting to see Billy Corgan" |
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Daisy Girl
~ Abstract Brain ~
Belize
5305 Posts |
Posted - 08/11/2005 : 18:08:13
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Originally posted by kathryn
I don't hate anybody. I refuse to put up with abuse and she is abusive. Abusive and mean and uptight and harsh to people.
Nobody likes her but we all worked together (christ, I was her boss for an unbearable 9 months) and it's a get-together of all of us former co-workers.
Man, I am definitely taking a few hits off a joint beforehand. Thanks for helping me figure out my gameplan, Steve.
Sometimes, no matter how shitty things get, you have to just do a little dance. - Frank
hehe I was going to say have a drink before you go. definately go... maybe someone will pawn her off on a guy in the bar and she will be out of the picture entirely. have fun kiki!
"I ain't goin to be what I ain't" |
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tobafett
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
1713 Posts |
Posted - 08/11/2005 : 20:48:40
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| in black, maybe? |
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tobafett
* Dog in the Sand *
USA
1713 Posts |
Posted - 08/11/2005 : 20:55:25
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| go fer 11k, k. :) |
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Llamadance
> Teenager of the Year <
United Kingdom
2543 Posts |
Posted - 08/12/2005 : 00:15:00
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kathryn 1 - 0 uber-bitch
\o/
No power in the 'verse can stop me
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VoVat
>> Denizen of the Citizens Band <<
USA
9168 Posts |
Posted - 08/18/2005 : 15:52:50
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I've lost jobs before because people/bosses found out that I played in a band
Now THAT doesn't make a lick of sense.
I was all out of luck, like a duck that died. I was all out of juice, like a moose denied. |
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