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| martian-honey |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 13:31:09
My boyfriend's comfortable with his world being made up of the latter two... so why does a sixteen year old boy in this day and age keepshying away from the sex? i need advice! (and dont tell me to try talking to him, because im exhausted with trying!) |
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| Carolynanna |
Posted - 09/08/2005 : 11:52:09
Well what does he say when you do talk to him?
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Don't believe the hype. |
| martian-honey |
Posted - 09/08/2005 : 09:24:11
yeah, well it did bother me but it doesnt any more... came to my senses, partly thanx to you guys
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| VoVat |
Posted - 09/05/2005 : 07:50:05
But it apparently bothered you enough for you to start a thread about it. :P
I was all out of luck, like a duck that died. I was all out of juice, like a moose denied. |
| martian-honey |
Posted - 09/05/2005 : 01:45:41
thankyou everyone you are all very wise :)
i already knew everything that has been said but i needed it pointed out to me, and in all honesty it doesn't bother me that much anyway. |
| whoreatthedoor |
Posted - 09/05/2005 : 00:10:45
quote:
Originally posted by starmekitten
Fuck stigma too. Social pressure can screw itself up the fucking backside I tell you that for nothing. If it feels right then it's right. If it feels wrong then it's wrong. It's not your friends business, your associates, it's not societies fucking business if you choose to have sex or choose not to and you shouldn't let anything but your will and the will of your partner interfere with that. Or dictate it.
I think anyway.
You know I love you, don't you? 
El amor es la distancia más larga entre un punto y otro |
| starmekitten |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 15:37:05
It's a daft assumption, sexual drive is very much an individual thing. Some people have low sex drives some high, men and women alike. If he doesn't want to talk about it though it doesn't sound like you have the most solid of foundations. You should be able to talk these things through and if you can't the you have to question if you want to sleep with someone who won't communicate in the first place.
Also, just try backing off. Sometimes pushy (and I'm not saying you are but you know what I mean) can be a turn off and lead to defiance. Same principle as kicking out when you're pushed into anything. Just take a step back and see if he comes to it in his own time. If he isn't keen and you still want to then there's a compatability issue maybe. And, the drugs can affect libido as well.
Fuck stigma too. Social pressure can screw itself up the fucking backside I tell you that for nothing. If it feels right then it's right. If it feels wrong then it's wrong. It's not your friends business, your associates, it's not societies fucking business if you choose to have sex or choose not to and you shouldn't let anything but your will and the will of your partner interfere with that. Or dictate it.
I think anyway. |
| martian-honey |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 15:27:09
i know, i know youre all right... i suppose its more to do with the stigma surrounding male attitudes to sex. because it is always assumed that men always want sex it can make some girls feel insecure when suddenly they dont. i realize that makes it my problem (and i wish he would cut out the middle one!) |
| VoVat |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 15:10:47
I think it's disturbing how young people are expected to lose their virginity nowadays. I think anyone who's teased can comfort themselves with the fact that the mockers are probably insecure due to regret.
I was all out of luck, like a duck that died. I was all out of juice, like a moose denied. |
| Cheeseman1000 |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 14:23:46
Funniest insult ever (to me at least): on the school bus, usually home of intellectual debate and witty banter. Big Kevin spent half the journey making fun of me for being a virgin: "Virge! Virge!"
I was fourteen for crying out loud.
How's that for a slice of fried gold? |
| HeywoodJablome |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 14:20:33
I agree, you got plenty of time for that. |
| kathryn |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 14:19:11
Seriously, I think it's perfectly OK for people to stay virgins until far later than 16. You should respect his wishes.
Sometimes, no matter how shitty things get, you have to just do a little dance. - Frank
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| VoVat |
Posted - 09/04/2005 : 14:18:00
Maybe eliminating the middle one would help matters.
I was all out of luck, like a duck that died. I was all out of juice, like a moose denied. |
